Am I A Fool to Keep Letting Him Come Back?

Question

I have a guy friend who I've been "dating" with no committment for a whole year now.He means everything to me and I'm SO in love with him.I use to get the same vibe from him, but it has recently slowed down.We argue more and disappear from eachother's lives for weeks at a time.The last argument we had was two weeks ago, and he told me to leave him alone.I left him alone and didn't contact him at all for a week.The day of the week, he sent a text message asking how I was doing, so I wrote back and said fine, and asked how he was.I never got a response.The following week, after I left church,he called and acted like nothing had happened.As soon as we got off the phone,he sent a text saying,I'm not mad at you.We didn't talk anymore until that Tuesday,he came by and got me and we went for a ride.He brought me back and sent me a text saying thanks for the talk.He disappeared again until yesterday.What could possibly be the problem.How do I stop this action.We can't be "sometime" friends.

Answer 1

tell him what you jsut told us. Tell what you want and you are tired of all the games.

Answer 2

Yes, you are a fool. I was young and foolish too once. Play hard to get. Go out with other guys so he will value you more. If he doesn't eventually treat you right, then just end it with him. Another guy who will treat you well will eventually come around. If I could do things all over again, I would have been more strict about having self-respect and not putting up with demeaning behavior from someone I thought I was crazy about. You can fall in love with someone who will treat in a way that you deserve to be treated.

Answer 3

I hate to be the one to inform you I am sure you got responses from other posters, but this guy sounds like a user because a guy who is really into you wouldnt sit there and play games like this. He wasnt into you at all because how could you go an entire year dating and exhibiting hot and cold behavior towards you being nice to you one minute and shady the next. You deserve way better than this. If he can't be your real friend or your boyfriend and make it official then it's time to cut ties and move on. A real man will treat you with respect and value the good person that you are and not treat you like a mere convienience. I left a person who was like this after a 4 year relationship which started off fine until he started getting in trouble with the law and involving himself with other women while with me, but expected me to put up with his mess. You need to get real with him and let him know the business and if he can't get with that issue him his walking papers and move on. Begin to meet guys who are ready to be serious with one woman and isnt playing silly games with your feelings. Your time, energy, and love is worth more to a man who's got time for you and is ready to be in a relationship with a mature and vibrant woman. There's a special guy out there for you who will love and adore you. Never let someone play you like this because this guy will get his ten fold and believe me he will see what it feels like when someone plays him stupid. Don't waste your love on a MAJOR LOSER.

Answer 4

You said it: there is no committment
Anything goes as long as you let it. But you can't say "no committment" and then want him to be all yours.

But aside from that he is using you when he needs something and yes you're a fool to let ANYONE treat you that way. A friend, a partner or a family member.

Answer 5

Get rid of him. I know it's easier said than done, but I was in this same situation and the garbage went on and off for years. It cost me a lot in terms of emotional energy. Ditch him now before you drive yourself crazy.