Without going to drastic measures how can i change my appearance to get a fella after being single for ever?

Question

Im 25 and have been single for most of my life. My longest relationship was 3.5 months!!!
Im not ugly, and im a nice person so i dont understand why im single.......HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Be who you are, dont change to suit others, the right person will come along eventually, stay positive and when you dont look you might even find the right person for you good luck hun

Answer 2

I have to answer this..................... if you think you can pull a nice fella whilst out clubbing etc think again, they are all after one thing.

You need to get some hobbies, this way you will meet new men and get to know them over a period of time, you will be more likely to get asked out then as you have built up a friendly relationship.

It is soo hard get a boyfriend by going to pubs and clubs.

I.e go dancing, volunteer work

It's not all about appearance, i think these guys arn't getting to know you well enough to want to go further. If you think they are, then there might be something to do with the personality that mite be putting them off? (without sounding rude) have a think which one it could be. and good luck.

Also if you smile alot, have a confident sexy walk this helps. (dont' over do it tho)

Answer 3

I'm slightly older than you and have been single for the last 15 months - through choice however.

I get alot of attention from guys, and i'll tell you what they say they like about me. The fact that i'm confident and happy in my own skin. I'm also told that a happy face does wonders to attract the opposite sex.

So try to promote confidence and happiness. But whatever you do, DO NOT come across as desparate or needy - men hate that.

Good luck in finding a partner, but also try to enjoy being single!

Answer 4

As a man who has enjoyed the company of a lot of women and I mean a lot, I can only say that not all women realise who and what they are, nor do they realise how they portray themselves to others or if what they are doing is particularly welcomed by the opposite sex.
Now ! the reasons that some women do not get boyfriends are many, the most common one is that they always want the person they fancy, rather than welcoming all and see if they hit it off with one of them, So rejecting what they do not fancy at first sight could be a big mistake. Do not push food away because you do not like what it looks like, taste it first you might grow to really love it.
Secondly, not all women are able to accept being fondled by a relative stranger within hours of meeting him, it takes some women weeks and even months to allow someone to be familiar with them.
Furthermore, if a woman has not dated for sometime, it becomes even more difficult for her to submit to physical contact before actually loving the man she is with and really wanting him.
Finally, a lot of women are looking for specific types of men and they tend to avoid serious contact with anyone that does not meet their criteria.
It is only natural that if you avoid diving into a pool immediately, you will sit on the side finding all sorts of excuses why you cannot go in, water is too cold, I am just waiting to warm up a little, I will in a minute , don't rush me, etc... the truth is they are afraid, not to drown but to get that shock when you first dive in.
The same goes with men, they worry about what the friends will say if he is not to their liking, will they disapprove? they are afraid that he will cheat them and lie just to get into bed, they are afraid to eventually be hurt if he leaves them, they are also afraid of getting something like VD or even Aids, even get pregnant.
Yes they can go on the pill, but they might put on weight. They may not have the courage to force the man to wear a condom, etc..etc..
So there you have it there are many many more reasons I could tell you about, but mainly if a woman does not have a boyfriend it is not because she is not asked out , it is because she is fussy, particular , proud, shy, nervous, almost anything,
My advice is be friends with everyone that approches you, someday one of the frogs will turn into a prince but only if you kiss them all till you find out which one it is.

Answer 5

Hi. Just look around you and see what other 25 year olds are wearing. But the main thing is to be able to look at your self and like what you see. The old saying is true. Beauty come's from with in a person. Oh yes we see lots of beautiful women and handsome men around. But take a good look at them how many of them are realy nice people. I bet you will find that most of these so called beautiful people are so far up them selfs that they are not realy worth knowing. So if you are a nice person be your self and people will see you for what your are. My Grandmother allways said to me never try to be some one your not. For people will see right through you. Remember the main thing it for you to have fun.

Answer 6

It really does not matter how you look. I'm a bloke, and when I met my beloved, with whom I have lived for eight glorious years, I was a fat seventeen-stone beer drinker. The lady I fell in with (I had no need to court her), was a seven-stone near anorexic. What attracted her to me was the fact that every time she saw me, even socially, I was surrounded by books. She is a PhD.

Do not change yourself, otherwise you will get a fella who loves your image, and not you.

There is someone for everyone. That being said, we all have a laugh when we recall our marriage. My wife was anorexic. I'm a Chef.....

Answer 7

1. Get yourself a full length mirror.
2. Get your 'colours done' to find out what colours look best on you.
3. Your actual size doesn't matter. Men base their decisions on the chest to waist RATIO. So get a good bra -with fitting, funding, and trying on this step could take 6 months.
4 try not to squeak when you talk, relax and talk more slowly.

Answer 8

Be yourself. If you try to look like someone else you will atract someone who likes the artificial you rather than the real you.

I knew a girl who always insisted on wearing very sexy low cut dresses and then complained that the only blokes who chatted her up were letches who were only interested in her body.

Don't try too hard, you will scare them away.

Answer 9

Get confident and if it takes a make over to do this then go ahead, once you learn to love yourself others start loving you too, dont be the one that stands in the corner.

Answer 10

Yes, well I have this same problem. It really isn't us, but I recently just got my hair done! I recieved a lot of attention from males! try it! make it a drastic hair change.