We have been married for a year. Our marriage has been rocky from verbal to physical abuse. He has cheated on me once and been on a date once.(In my heart he still continues but doesn't admit it) We have a child together. His family hates me and my family hates him, but with time I know they can love him again. My husband is white and I am black. We have no problem with this but his family does. I feel as though I am holding on to something that is not meant to be hold on to but I know I love him. Could I be confusing my love for him instead of me being in love? I filed for divorce but am hesitant on going through with it.
2006-10-07 10:22:51 · 3 answers · asked by mseulonda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Dear, it is over! Don`t hold on,as it won`t get any better! Your child will feel the tension and it will affect him/her! You know its over,so sign the paper and get it over with! You will end up having a breakdown or worse, and who will look after your child then? Self preservation is vital,and he is`nt going to change!!!!!!! Get out now! Make a new life which can only be better,in time,as there is a "grieving" period, BUT it will pass and you and your child can be happy! Go ahead and sign the papers and make a new happier life for you and your child! I speak from experience as I did stay and it nearly destroyed us ALL! I regret it to this day,and we have been divorced(finally!) for about 15 years! We get on great now when we meet for occassions that arise with our children,and that is nice,but I certainly would`nt want him back! Do it!
2006-10-07 10:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by cushla@ihug.co.nz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just holding on for the sake of the child and because it is "comfortable" and you don't really want to go through finding someone else. From the information you have given here though I think that it is time to move on because it is better now than much later down the road when you will only get hurt even worse. I know it is painful I truly do but maybe you should just get out now!
Good Luck with whatever decision you make and God Bless!
2006-10-07 17:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant make him love u...just let it go, think about all those bad things that he did to u all the pain that u had....just try to forget...it would be better for u
2006-10-07 17:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋