I have a friend that has 4 kids with 2 defferent females.
He pays almost a grand in childsupport a month and is always feeling down and depressed because he cant afford to live a normal life anymore.
What advice should I give him ?
Yes I already gave him the obvious one
STOP HAVING KIDS ! Lol
Is there anyone else out there in a similar situation
and if so how do you make it through life each day and stay positive ?
Im running out of things to say to him.
2006-10-07 10:13:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sometimes he asks me if maybe he should get back with his most recent baby mama even though he doesnt love her,
just so that he wont have to struggle that much. . . .
I tell him bad idea.
2006-10-07 10:25:37 · update #1
IMMATURE MEN SELDOM LISTEN TO GOOD ADVICE.
THEY TEND TO FOLLOW THEIR OWN BAD LOGIC. LEAVE IT BE.
EXPERIENCE IS A SOLID RIGHT JAB.
2006-10-07 10:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got himself into an unfortunate situation.... but he has to suck it up and do the right thing. It's not easy to do the right thing.... Look at it this way - he only has to do it for 21 years..... I'm sure it's very depressing. Try to maintain a relationship with these kids so they know who their dad is - make time for the kids and have them be part of his life - so he doesn't just see money going out the window - that he has children he loves that love him. It should ease the pain a little. Many people out there that are married and live in the same house are raising 4 and more kids.... spending the $$ is just part of life..... it goes along with wanting children.
2006-10-07 17:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to live each day like its the beginning again--every day think of 1 positive thing---remember if his ex gets re-married or a job the support might be changed to a lower amount----look for ways to make a few extra bucks--try starting a side business-always keep lots of connection with his children--it will always make him happy to see what little miracles they are ///and how they are growing and changing and living healthier lives because of his support------------------and just move on
2006-10-07 17:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know. Maybe he needs to get another job and work 2 jobs until his kids turn 18. Tell him to use condoms. It is his fault. Tell him to chop his weiner off. Maybe that would help. Maybe he can become a Jigalo.
2006-10-07 17:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Amynesiac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you suck
2006-10-07 17:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by seeseezsee 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋