help me.... to overcome my ....?

Question

I am eldest in the family with all the responsibility on my shoulders... mainly of purchasing a dream house for my family...
I am earning bt not enough to fulfull my parents dream...
No one is there to help me out... what should I do.....

Try hard but all in vain....

give me some suggestion dear... if you have any .......

Answer 1

I DO NOT KNOW THE HOUSE YOUR PARENTS DREAM. BUT I WILL TELL YOU THE HOUSE CANNOT BE DREAM BUT MAKE A SMALL HOUSE ACCORDING TO YOUR EARNING AND MAKE DREAM HOME INSTEAD OF HOUSE.

Answer 2

being the eldest in the family, shouldering your responsibilities is fine... everyone has their own limits and capacities. I jus wanna ask you one question... are you aged between 35 to 40... if ur below 35 , am sure u still have time to build house ... Looks like u have not commited too... U seem to give more importance to parents... I appreciate that... at the same time , the parents must know what their son 's capabilities are? they must encourage and motivate you not pressurize you... U have more time... So cheer up... building a house is not a big deal at all... U can do it... Don't get dejected and never ever feel pathetic about ur self... Actually true happiness lies, when U come home, U should feel AT HOME... hope u understood what I said... SO GET UP AND GET GOING

Answer 3

Sweetie, first of all, a house with walls, a roof and all the services like heat, A/C and water...that's a dream house. Make smaller goals and start asking for help from the family, even a little would ease the burden. and I don't know your age, but if you're a kid, then you need to call in adults, if you're over eighteen, look to Social services for help.

Answer 4

hi
u seem to be a very hard working person who has his own dreams.
dreaming is not a bad thing coz those who dream can only fulfil their dreams. have u tried taking loans?well even if they dont work then have patience and work harder. time will work things out for u. and is ur home more important than the responsibilities of the younger lot u have wid u?
maybe someday they will be of help to u.
right now concentrate on their future plans.

Answer 5

First take a deep breath and deal with this as calmly as you can. Talk to your parents and anyone else you need to and say I cannot do this by myself. Asking for help is actually a sign of maturity and strength. No one can do it all themselves.And tell them about your dreams!You are a part of the family.Don't live your life for someone else.Be there for them.Talk and listen.But assert yourself.Good luck! Things will work out.

Answer 6

You simply cannot do it. Here is a great opportunity for you to learn to say no. You are not obligated to buy your family anything. Your love and respect should be enough. If this is a family dream, then the whole family should contribute and not create an unreasonable burden for one person.

Answer 7

hay brother don"t worry ... every body has dreams to be full filled.. give some time for all good things to happen....... know one thing every night has a bright sunny day behind it.. so has yours... your dark days will surely be bright with all you wanted. you say you are the eldest and you r 28... you can join in some part time job if you have got a good speaking skill in you then go ahead for local call centre like air tell or hutch some thing like that you will surely get five tthousand then after having some experience in it you can try for a bigger position like working in hutch shop or air tell shop there you will be paid more.. when you have lots of experience in your hand you will be voted the first when you go in search of any other bigger job like call centre where you get a basic pay of nearly 7 to 10 thousand in day shift and for night shift you get 15 to 19 housand in call centres.. i have given you some small ideas that i told to my brother my idea worked for him.. hope it works for you too Anna ... good luck... my Anna was only 24 at that time you are 28 and i hope you will be having lots of experience in many fields... never give up faith... you can do it.. god is there to help every one in despair. take care.. bye

Answer 8

If it's your parents dream, and not your's throw it down the drain. You seem to be Parent-Centered. Instead of wasting your life going after someone else's dreams go after your own. I've read too many stories about people who spent their lives chasing parent's dreams, and then realizing that 40 years of their lives are down the drain.

Answer 9

why r u thinking so much that u cannot fulfill their dreams i think that u r doing a great job. see it is the time for u to think about your future that doesn't means that u start avoiding ur family but it is ok u r completing their wishes. so try to save ur money to but atleast a home 4 ur parents n ur future family too.

Answer 10

You need help buddy!Ask for support from other members of ur family-If they r somehow incapable,try a loan from a bank-but remember-u ll ve to clear that burden also then.Ask ur family for patience n certainly u ll be able to fulfil their dreams one day.