What do I do about my best friend?
I have known my best friend (girl) for 2 years now. I am a guy. We used to be so close, and did absolutely everything together. Now she has a new boyfriend, who she told me about even before they got together. She does everything with him now. When he is not free she decides to text, phone or meet me just to staisfy me, not meaning it . Basically only when convienent for her. When I try to not talk she eventually asks me to meet with her, putting more strain and hurt into me.
I have told her many times how I feel, and she does not listen and always has an answer. I have texted her recently again, saying I miss the old days, the fun and our chats, and said also that I am not trying to be awkward but only telling the truth.To give her a final chance, and she has not texted back.
What do I do? Leave her to contact me, or apologise for bringing it up again or just wait till I see her sometime next week?
2006-10-07 10:00:58 · 8 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
*giant hug*
you seem very earnest, and i understand, because my best friend is a boy and i'm a girl. the problem with that is, when someone gets caught up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, they isolate their friends of the opposite sex so their new significant other won't get jealous. my best friend and i have been friends for about six years now, best friends for about three, and we've both done this to the other at times. if your friendship is anything like ours, just wait it out. eventually she'll realize how important it is to maintain your friendship with her.
see, with my best friend, i know we both go through busy spurts and relationships and all of that, but when things die down and when the dating relationships end, he'll be there, still my friend, at the end of the day. it's not that we take eachother for granted, but i guess what it is, is, we are granted.
to you, i'd say spend some time with your other friends and enjoy yourself; don't worry about it. if she's really your best friend, she'll come around eventually, and whenever you get caught up with a girlfriend, she'll do the same for you.
2006-10-07 10:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it sounds as if she is putting all of her focus on this new relationship and "canceling out" your friendship. It's sad when people feel that they can't have a multi-dimensional life (i.e., a wider circle of people other than the "boyfriend"). It might be a good idea to do the zen thing and stop contacting her for awhile. Maybe your silence will make her stop and think of the valuable friendship that she has jeopardized. In the meantime to fill the void that her absence has created, you might want to "kick start" other budding friendships and interests...
2006-10-07 10:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have more than just friendly feelings for your friend. There is nothing wrong with this. Maybe you should go out and find a girlfriend for yourself. You should just try to distance yourself from her and if she really feels like she misses you and your friendship she will make a move.
2006-10-07 10:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll learn, boyfriends come and go but friends are forever. You may just need to kick her to the curb, because trust and believe, the moment that dude does her wrong, she will come crying back to you.
2006-10-07 10:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her to answer you
if you apoligize for bringing it up, she will not have a chance to tell u her real feelings and it will just make your friendship uncomfortable
2006-10-07 10:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she oviosly doesn't see you as a "boyfiernd" but a firend
i think u should "leave her to contact u" if she doesn't want to talk about it i think u should apologise for bringing it up
2006-10-07 10:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by ☆♥~chickgirl~♥☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, she'll contact you when she's ready.Good luck!
2006-10-07 10:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Female O ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her man
2006-10-07 10:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by silman cade 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋