My girlfriend says she has been dealing with self esteem issues and stress her entire life. is 46 with a 15 year old daughter.She is very withdrawn and tired. She said it is not me. Wants me as a friend for now she said.Does not want anybody else.Would even take time away from daughter.Is this depression besides stress? She just looks tired and down.Doesn,t want to give anything to anybody.Some times affectionate. Others zip.This is so tough to take and understand. Itold her I would not give up on her and her daughter wich the rest of people in her life has done! Any thoughts?
2006-10-07 09:49:49 · 11 answers · asked by John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good on u mate!B there 4 her&in tyme she'll b ok.If she can have a holiday,she might feel better.
2006-10-07 09:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're totally ignoring the thing I think is most important: Have you guys already worked out what YOUR fulfilled fantasy is going to be? Don't EVEN work on bringing this one to life if there's any risk that she'll turn around and say "Okay, you know, when I said anything? I wasn't expecting THAT" and leave you feeling cheated. She said "let's make a deal". Right now, the deal is only half-made. Make sure everything is worked out for BOTH your fantasies before EITHER side gets carried out. You're apparently willing to do a lot for this girl - make sure she's willing to do as much for you!
2016-03-28 01:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes always be there for her. She is depress thats not a good sign. All she needs to do is enjoy her life w/ daughter and u as a very good friend cause u she will never find a firend like u. Make sure she goes out and not stay home.
2006-10-07 09:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by avy_68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her some more cuz she sounds like she was with someone that made her feel this way she needs you to support her and help her build up her self-esteem.I had those same problems,but I'm a beautiful person and I had someone that tried to put me down and make me feel that whoever I got with was not gonna want me or make me feel like he's the only person that was gonna want me.Now I'm with the man of my dreams and were married and I'm so very happy and no complaints.
2006-10-07 09:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be depressed. If so it seems like it would be a fairly easy fix. (Not that you can every really tell how easy or hard it will be). Be supportive the best that you can. She really needs support and patience. She may try to push you away if she doesn't feel like she deserves what you're giving her, so just be looking out for that.
2006-10-07 09:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a Bipolar Disorder. Search this and make sure she sees a doctor. She is lucky to have you.
2006-10-07 09:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Curio-ous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs some professional help. Is she willing to get some? I am glad to hear you will be there for her; that is very supportive of you.
2006-10-07 09:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may benefit from anti-depressants or other psychotropic medications. Ask her to see a Doctor.
Peace.
2006-10-07 09:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does sound depressed. Is she willing to seek Counselling?
2006-10-07 09:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show her by being there... instead of just saying it really do it and that'll show her that you really care.. and give her compliments without sounding to cheesy too.
2006-10-07 09:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by Charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋