you later discover he has been unfaithful more than once you have no financial backup as he told you not to work and he would take care of you. what would you do?
2006-10-07 09:49:46 · 17 answers · asked by Journey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there and done that. My marriage was for 20 years before I found out the same things. I filed for divorce and started looking for a job. It was really hard to make ends meet for about two years. After that time things started to ease up a bit. I went through a lot of pain and heart ache during that time and sought help from a divorce support group. I finally knew I was through the bad times when I was able to buy a house, and I learned to accept and like myself again.
2006-10-07 09:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since u didn't tuck any money away u can only do one thing..Stay with him until u can get a job and enough money together to get your own place He will always be unfaithful and he has made sure u would stay with him by making sure u didn't work. So you need to act like he did.Act like everything is okay and get a job.Tell him your bored and need to do something with your life.Then when u get yourself together make sure u have evidence to prove he has been unfaithful and then take him to the cleaners.Divorce his ***...Good luck
2006-10-07 09:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that you are in such a situation and in one like yours. There is no simple or trouble free way of getting out of it. One mistake which you mention was the fact of not working and don't have a financial back up as this was one way of him controlling you financially.
I can't tell you what for you to do and i hope that what ever decision you take is for the best and if you two have children is were things can get a bit complicated depending on their age etc.......
2006-10-07 10:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 10:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by keetan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there are really no feelings between the two or is things dont work out than file a divorce. The wife sue him for his money to be the finicial need. But talk with a pro lawyer first. If you are planning to file a divorce
2006-10-07 09:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have insisted on having a job cause you never know what's going to happen. Start looking for a job and if you still want to be with him then you'll get some counseling and see why he said he was feed up with it.
2006-10-07 09:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by SHORTY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should divorce him. And find a job. But if you have kids or he makes good salary, then don't worry about finding a job, just go to court and make him give money to your kids every month(enough for you to live on) But if you dont have kids, then you need a job or a new husband - depend on yourself
2006-10-07 10:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is to blame for cheating but you are to blame for letting him take away your independence. Find a job asap and start tracking everything and hopefully things will work out in the divorce.
2006-10-07 09:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better have som family to back you up now. until you can get to a lawyer an get 50% of everything. now is the time to stand on your own two feet and learn from this , never depend on someone else to be there 100% again!
2006-10-07 09:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world that is what happened between me and my EX. You have to decide to pick your self up and move on, it is all up to you. I have found a wonderful man and am now happily married. It has to be all up to you. I thought my life was over, but I found out the best is yet to come. Good luck
2006-10-07 10:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋