i was very hurt...some family problem and i thought that may b i shud share it with my husband and then he can make me feel better and give some advices.so i msged him tellin him that im hurt and upset.he called me and told me that i shudnt b talkin about any1 and that i shud keep all my feelings to myself.i should not back bite.i wasnt back biting.infact i hadnt even started tellin me problem.i just wanted to tell him what has happened with me.b4 we got married all his female friends use to call him and tell him all of their personale problem (includin their probs with their fiances) if he can understand them and listen to them y cant he listen to my problem.i dun like sharing my family probs with any1 and my hubby was the only1 i felt i cud b open with....y do u think he is sayin this?what does it means.if he can listen to his female friends y cant he listen to me too?
2006-10-07 09:49:19 · 6 answers · asked by afriend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to him about this, I know he doesn't seem to want to know your problems but he needs to know. He is your husband and I persume you love him and that he loves you but what he needs to understand is that there's much more to a relationship than just love! You need to be able to share EVERYTHING. It's the way a marriage works. he has to understand this. Good Luck
2006-10-07 09:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Naomi N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 03:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I have to agree with the last person who said that maybe it's a problem he doesn't know how to help you with. My husband has a tendency to blow me off b/c it's a problem he doesn't know how to help me solve. He hasn't realized until recently that all I really wanted was just someone to listen. Not solve. Just listen.
It could also be your timing and your approach. Tell your husband flat out you just need someone to listen, you have things to get off your chest and you really just need someone to listen and you trust him the most. Tell him you don't want to solve anything, just listen. Then ASK him when a good time is for him, or when he's got time. IOW, if you messaged him he might have been in the middle of something and you just launched into a complaint, thinking he'd understand, but he didn't (understand) and ended up taking it the wrong way. Men don't think the way we do and I know I for one have a tendency to forget that my husband can't read my mind, that of course he doesn't know that I just want him to listen. Men tend to see problems and want to solve them, especially for the women they love. Women are just the opposite, they tend to just want to talk about them.
Good luck!
2006-10-07 10:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems your hubby if you can call him that is selfish and only has his own interest at heart. How do you know he isn't giving his female friends more than just an listening ear.
If he can't respect your feelings think long and hard about your future before you regret. you can do better after all you owe it to yourself.
2006-10-07 09:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Journey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your problem is just to close and personal and he doesn't want to get involved or hurt your feelings.
Or he doesn't want to know that much about your past.
Maybe he feels its something to keep private and not to dwell on it.....but then again, there isn't enough info about the problem your talking of.
2006-10-07 10:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by talk4now2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule of thumb.....women ( not all of them) are emotional creatures....men use logic.
2006-10-07 11:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by shug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋