My in lwas have been very bad to me,and my husband confuses me with his attitude,i am depended on him,what do?

Question

I have 2 kids,and married to a man who confuses me,sometimes he shows methat he cares,but mostly he ignores me,and abuses me and even hits me badly,and loves hanging around with his friends and lies to me about 90% of things...i know i should get out of this realationship,but i belong to a poor family,and i have no backup,moreso my husband never lets me have financial independence,i am totally dependent on him financially,and if i leave him i dont want to be seperated with my kids,and if i take them with me,how will i fullfill their needs,i am very depressed and over the years have lost all confidence in myself....is suicide the only option...

Answer 1

Get to a women's shelter quickly. You need outside counseling. and if you commit suicide, your children will have WHO?? to keep them from being beat next? I have been a very abused wife with the same lack of options that you have.

I decided poor and in a center would be healthier and i could make a better life for my children.


RUN RUN RUN.

Answer 2

I might be a kid and all but im a smart one.First of all try to go to a class or any of source of education to help u get a better job.Doesnt have to be fancy but enough to support ur family.(except husband).Try to make a financial plan but giving a fake address to a friend and ask her to hold the bills,lettersetc, for u till u come to her house and get it.Then u to all the financing stuff at his or her place.Tell ur husband that ur going to bring the kids to somewhere(but keep in mind to not make the same excuse every time so that suspicion wont build up)If u do get a good job find a place cheap to live and keep saving.Dont spend too much on things and try to save money and water and electricity(like dont leave the lites on when not used,try to take less time in showers.etc)Also remember to kep a secret money storage so that what ever ur husbands spends won afect ur svaings.Then wen u htink the time is rite,u have enough money,found a cheap house,go to the court for a divorce(oh ya save more money for the divorce.)Hopefully if this plan goes to work dont let things get to u being happy and cheery.Just remeber that u still have to save.Maybe after a few years of saving money andhave maybe decent amount of money i suggest u move to texas.Cuz things are cheap there and my friend just moved theres so i no.So there's my plan.But try to keep this a secret as much as possible.Lie if u have to even if its wrong but ur husband does it too but MORE!I hope this helps u.

Answer 3

Well here in the states spousal abuse is grounds for divorce so if he is hitting you he is abusing you. Also if you get divorced here in the states and you maintain custody of the children he will have to pay child support. Either you don't live in the states or your husband has you convinced that you have no where to turn. I suggest opening up the phone book and looking for lawyers that give first time consultations for free and make an appointment. Once they figure out if you have grounds for divorce they can have it written into the divorce papers that your husband has to pay for all court costs as well as any lawyer's fees. Good luck.

Answer 4

sucide is not ur option you should try communicating with ur husband and let him know of your feelings and learn some skills as a woman sewing,knitting,craft this will help you to become independent as you could start seeking market for your items and explain to him how good you would feel to have a home of your own and not to be living with ur in laws. There must be a way out and cimmunicating can help

Answer 5

If you really want to get out there are ways that you can do it through social services first of all you need to report the abuse and with that being said you will recieve support from social services like food clothing and shelter maybe at first from a womens shelter and also assistance with finding employment ,ways to get child support from him for the children and also rental assistance for you and your children you need to try reporting the abuse because your children need to be in a healthy environment where they can feel safe as well as yourself I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Try and call a woman's shelter and find out what your rights are, see if you could make it, on your own, Suicide is the worst thing you could think of doing, that would mess your kids up for life. I think if you tell a shelter that you are thinking of suicide, they will get you help faster. Say what can I do? I would like for you to get yourself strong and do what ever you have to do to get out of this relationship. for your own sanity sake! You are important! Try and work on you, no one knows how to treat you, as good as you know how to treat yourself! Pray!

Answer 7

U shudnt think like that,u need2get out of that marriage.Da guy hits u,u dont trust him.He dont deserve u.U thinkin of committin suicide wat abt ur poor kids??who'll look after em?surely dey wont b happy with him.Mayb coz u depend onn him financially he thinks he can treat u like trash?show him dat u r strong n leave now!u'll manage somhow.

Answer 8

kick him out