Well I had a "summer fling" with a guy I met at my old job. To make the long story short i was new and this one goy noticed me and began to like me. I wasnt attracted to him at all at first but his charm won me over and I began to fall in love. Well he also gave me my 1st kiss and it was in a stock room(yes im ashamed! lol) Well he then told me that i couldnt be his girlfriend unless he was able to have sex with me but I chose to wait till marriage and I remain that way. But i have never gotten over him. At my old job i heard rumors going around that he was seeing some girl and he denied it when id ask. Well they did break up but they are now back together and they are so in love with each other. This guy has stuff about her all over his page almost as if he were trying to make me jealous. I feel so hurt and used. Is it ok to feel this way??? Or am i overreating?
2006-10-07 08:53:53 · 11 answers · asked by deanda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not overreacting. It's always hurting to know that when you like someone, you find out some really mean and awful things about them later. This guy is a terrible a$$hole. I would chalk this one up as a bad experience and move on. And why are you still visiting his page? If I were hurt by someone, I certainly wouldn't be still checking up on any information about them. He was special to you because you've done things with him that you've thought you'd never do before (kissing in stock room). It such a shame that he took away such special moments and memories that you two created together. We always remember those who've we had our "first" anything with. So really, thats all he is to you....just a memory. And unfortunately for you it happened to be such a bad one. It will stick with you for a while, but do the best with trying to tuck those memories away. It's not worth holding on to them because it will just cause you more hurt and pain. Before finding that special someone, you'll probably have to deal with a few more a$$holes like this one. So just be careful and learn from your experiences. In time, all wounds will eventually heal.
2006-10-07 10:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think flings are always the hardest things to get over because u dont feel that ur feelings are ok caues it was just a fling. i say just try to forget about it and dnt look at his page. for now cut out evrything that reminds u of him that way u can completely seperate urself from the situation. They slowly ease back into the things that used to remind u of him like start listening to a song that was on the radio when u 2 kissed or something like that. ive done this b4 and it helps. so good luck and dont worri ur feelings are fine! and if they arent then im weird 2! lol
2006-10-07 15:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by cutie123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are definately overreacting. Aren't you grateful that you did not sleep with him? There is nothing wrong with feeling how you do; it will take time and maturity to get over it. Just hang in there, don't visit his pages.
2006-10-07 15:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's okay to feel that way you have to stand up for your morals and if someone doesn't think they're important then you need to leave him alone , but that doesn't mean you can't have feelings . You just did the best thing for you and that's great to be that strong and independent.
2006-10-07 15:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dede, why would you want to be with a guy that said that you can't be his girlfriend if you don't have to have sex with him??? NOt to be mean, but his other name would be an A**hole. IF a guy really likes you for you, he would not ever ever say that to a girl!!! Get over him! He's so not worth it!
2006-10-07 15:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just all about him self, he basically said in a different way i just want sex,get over him he's not even worth thinking about,thats why he put on such charm , he;s gonna say what girls like to hear.
he's a player to all the girls he talks to
2006-10-07 16:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur so not overreacting! that guy wuz an azzwhole! of course..most guys are. if u think u rlov elife is screwed up..you should hear mine. itll make urs seem like nothing
2006-10-07 16:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god!!lose this loser!!! he is definatelly not the right guy to lose your virginity to.. so dont give it a second thougth.. i dont know how old you are but PLEASE dont lose it to him.. even if when you are leady to give yourself to some one it all has to feel right..a t least for a while.. right now you might be a challenge to him.. a conquest..not worth it.. he will make yo feel like trash the next day...
2006-10-07 16:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by ARELY G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you are OVERREACTING. Hes just mad because you're the p-ssy that got away.That's probably the same reason why he broke up with the other girl, but she was the dumb one who gave it up,trust me your p-ssy thanks you for protecting it from Mr. GONORRHEA.
2006-10-07 16:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by monkeycmonkeedo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are
2006-10-07 15:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋