How do I get my mother in law out of our house?

Question

Please, please help me get my mother in law out of OUR house!!!
My wife and I are going through a divorce, that is pretty bad. But my mother in law is making our divorce a lot worse than it has to be. My wife "hired" her mother (my mother in law) to watch our child. Mother in law doesn't have to be in house because my wife works mon-fri, 9am-5pm, and I work wed-sun, 5pm-3am (opposite shifts). My wife and I only see each other a couple of hours/week, but mother in law lives in our house mon-fri. We only need a babysitter for a few hours/week, and I prefer a babysitter, than my mother in law. I am capable of caring for our child (feeding, putting to sleep, etc,) and I want to watch our child, and I have been doing that for several months.
I know if my wife "hired" her mother to watch our child, I can't tell her "no" when my wife is there. That is ok. But when I am there, 9am-4pm daily, do I have the right NOT TO HAVE MOTHER IN LAW IN THE HOUSE? Please help with specific legal advice.

Answer 1

Do it carefully. Have you questioned why she is doing it? In the divorce..depending on how far along you are she may claim that your not capable without outside help, thus unable to care for the kids. She is also trying to establish costs incurred for taking care,as frivolously as that may seem. Does her mom stay around when shes alone with the kids?!?!?! Keep this in mind. In these kind of cases i would advise on the following:

1.) Approach your wife and say that you can take care of the kids during your hours, and you feel that its not necessary for her mother to be there. Although you are grateful for her help, its not needed except for those times when the both of you cannot be there. Document it.

2.) If she chooses to ignore you, then state to her formally that you no longer require her mothers help at these times stated and she will not be welcome there. Give the in-law a written notice.

3.) Bring the authorities in when it becomes trespassing.
After you've given proper notice.. it becomes a legal issue... use the law. Anything otherwise is you just being mean ...cover your bases.

hope that helps.
Rm

Answer 2

Why can't you tell ma-in-law "No" when the wife's there?
Dude, you're getting divorced. The time for 'hurt feelings' are past. Speak your mind. When you're home I'd tell the old battle axe to hit the bricks, and 'you'll take it from there'. It's still your house right? If she won't leave, call the Cops and tell them that you have a trespasser that won't leave. So what if you piss everyone off? You're going to be treated like sh!t no matter what you do. Even if you're right, you're still wrong in their eyes. If you think the name calling is bad now... standby for heavy rolls. I would have no problem with ma-in-law being there when I'm gone, but once I step through the door, the situation changes. You can't be a pu$$y on this. There's no legal advice to give, ma-in-law isn't on the house note/deed, so therefore she has no legal right for access. Be firm and once you start feeling your nuts growing back, you'll be a new man!

Answer 3

Boy you only need the law of the land.....out your damn foot down about the matter. Your wife only hired her to get under your skin, and so that once you all go to court, she can try to make you look as if your incapable of caring for the child on your own.

Answer 4

You can call the police. It is your house and your mother in law is trespassing if you don't want her there. I'm not sure that will make things easier though. This divorce sounds pretty stressful. It might be best to move out and get your own place.

Answer 5

at first, you have found out an substantial lesson. In a courting, the two certainly one of you'll have a say so and enter in any substantial judgements. Your MIL shifting in became a substantial selection and it sounds as though such as you weren't consulted in any respect. serious warning call #a million. so which you should talk to him approximately all substantial judgements wanting to be suggested and agree upon. Secondly, the lesson is that residing with family in simple terms would not artwork. Loaning money, working with family etc.. additionally would not artwork. So in case you get this dealt with, make that a rule at your residence. Thirdly, your husband ought to stand up for you if his mom is being disrespectful yet on the grounds that he isn't, you should face up for your self. (I comprehend she is his mom and he owes her allot yet he's an person and additionally has a accountability to you and your courting.) do not wait till you explode and loose your temper the two. it is going to purely seem undesirable on you and make your husband have self belief it is you and not his mom. as a replace cope with each and every little element because it occurs. don't be rude, cheesy, loud or gruesome. in simple terms tell her issues like: "i could get excitement from it in case you probably did or did not...," "i in my view do not think of it is needed or suited to...," If she says something under her breath don't be afraid to assert, "i'm sorry, i did not hear you. are you able to repeat that please?" etc.., do not permit her think of she has it over on you.

Answer 6

aren't divorces fun? you two morons are playing a minute waltz on your respective buttons. I'm thinking the lack of sleep has made you space out the need for childcare. suck it up cupcake, keep the snotty comments to your future ex-mother-in-law to a minimum, and you should really think about moving out of the house.

Answer 7

I know you should just hold your peace, it must be hard for you, but do not make it an issue. You do need the rest, so take advantage of it. My thought is she must cramp your style. I feel that if you make a big issue about this, then their will be another problem. Just try and deal with it, be courteous to her!

Answer 8

i think your soon to be X is doing this on purpose because she knows it is going to bug the he double hockey sticks out of you. Its to bad she has to use your child to get try to play games. She knows what her mother is doing and I bet they both laugh about it. I got ride of my mother in law but I kept my husband. She was wicked too and he finally saw through her. I wish you lots of luck.

Answer 9

Yes, you have the right not to want her there. Tell your wife and your mother-in-law that. Be honest and upfront about it. Even if she doesn't like it, let it be. No point tolerating and making yourself unhappy about it.

Answer 10

who OWNS the house? Who signed the mortgage?