20 years ago i came out to my dad, october 8th 1986. at first it was terrible but now my dad has accepted it's the way i have to be, in his words.
who did you come out to first and what was their initial reaction?
2006-10-07 08:47:04 · 34 answers · asked by swot 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I dont think I have come out 100%,I never came out to anyone til my mid forties, my folks knew before and were totally homophobic,and made me leave home, and sadly,they have all passed,without reconcilliation.Its very hard.Its still a subject I find hard to share.The first sharing experience was with a schoolfriend,who laughed herself silly,told a few of my other friends,who then all avoided me .So my experiences have not been so good
2006-10-07 11:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Croeso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
July14th.2004 at a picnic we were having at C's home .Our best friends were there Both of our Moms and Dads,grandparents,and a few other friends from school.We waited till after the meal and everyone were gather around the pool .We are still a very big part of our family and still have most of our friends . Even our Pastor and his Wife was attending .We already had a talk with them a few times and they helped us out a lot .We think our Moms and Dads already knew .The picnic keep going till well after midnight .We think it is easier too come out now then yrs ago when being gay wasn't talked about so much.We also thing if you are really close too your family and your friends ,they will also be your allies if you ever need them .
2006-10-07 10:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by RUNNINGBARE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out "officially" 6 years ago (2000-2001) when I was 18. My parents and family had always "known" though. it was pretty tough time for my parents. They weren't mad or angry by any means. They just felt incredibly guilty, like it was their fault. I remember one time seeing my dad sit on the floor of his bedroom and bawling. It still hurts to think about. But things have gotten a lot better. My parents have accepted me as a gay individual, but they still have a hard time coming to terms with me actually acting it out/living it. However, they've always told me that they would love me just the same, no matter what and they would never reject or disown me. That's the best I could ask for. I don't want them to change their views on morality just because they feel obligated to. If they don't agree with a relationship that I'm in, that's okay. Just as long as they still love me the same.
2006-10-07 09:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I didn't figure out until 5 years ago that I was Gay, I'd have to say 5 years ago....*grin*....Better late then never! I was married to a man for 35 miserable years. I've spent the last 5 in total happiness and true satisfaction with the woman of my dreams. I should of left that damn closet a long time ago.
2006-10-07 10:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About six months ago... I came home from college for the weekend to visit my family and my boyfriend. I spent the entire day with my love and when I came home I helped my sister with the dishes. My mom was in the kitchen baking a cake and my dad was in the kitchen talking to us. At some point my sister turned to me and asked if I was gay... I'm a straight-gay man and it can be hard to decide if I am truly gay or if I'm metrosexual... I love my family and I didn't want to lie to them, so I told them the truth. I didn't care what my sister thought but I was concerned what was going through my parents heads. It was a relief when my dad made a joke about him knowing when I got my ear peirced and when my mom hugged me saying, "We love you! As long as you are happy, we are happy!"
2006-10-07 11:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out to my friends 1,5 years ago. I was 24. I lived abroad at the time. It was two weeks after I finally decided for myself that I was in fact gay. It took my friends about a month to realize that I wasn't joking. Everybody has always been cool about it. Making silly jokes all the time, but I don't care.
I told my parents a few weeks later when I visited them. They were cool too. Especially my mum was not surprised at all. She had a sneaky suspicion.
Coming out made my life a lot easier.
2006-10-07 13:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out to a friend of mine about 3 or 4 years ago. He was surprised but it didnt change anything. If anything we became closer. I didnt officially come out to the world until a year ago. It has largely been a positive experience.
2006-10-07 09:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i came out about 2 years ago... i new i was gay from when i was 14 years old- i told my dad...mum would never have accepted my gf of 2/3, so i got married to cover my gayness. do you know, i cried on my wedding day, before and after the deed....so many bad memories... anyway, im out and its the best thing i have done for my wellbeing... I feel so happy- its amazing.
2006-10-08 01:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out of it with my good fren last year, when I could no longer stifle my feelings, as I needed someone to listen to me and console me when my gal fren gives me a hard time. Felt much better then to have someone I could pour my woes and share my joys with. She was ok with it. Tho I was afraid she may not b able to accept my sexual orientation.
As for family members, they just got to know it about a week back, coz I could no longer hold my sadness when my galfren of 4 yrs wanna call it quits, as she thinks she's straight. I was blessed that both my parents, tho reluctant to accept at 1st, is ok with it. Better still my 2 bros are supportive too.
2006-10-07 09:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by intruder 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I came out to friends & family in 1984 when I was 18. I lost a lot of friends and was disowned by most my family. If I could do it over I wouldn't change a thing.
2006-10-07 08:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋