and later found out who the real culprit was....i think he owes you an apology IN FRONT OF THE OTHER WORKERS...but you did not get one...he just acted like nothing has happened....should you go in his office and say.." i would appreciate an apology for the other day that you yelled at me!!!"...or what should you say?????
2006-10-07 08:28:37 · 16 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would bloody go in there and say, im sorry but i think you owe me an apology as you tried to ridicule me infront of everyone then it turns out it wasnt me!
Bloody W@nker!!! hes/she's a bully if u cant face up to saying that least the other workers will know that he got it wrong and he/she is the one actually being ridiculed now! bloody w@nker!!!!!!
2006-10-07 08:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question, if you go into the bosses office and like demand an apology then your not likely to get one, on the other hand you both know that the whole situation was not your doing then I would handle it like this.
"I think we both know the situation the other day was not of my doing. I know you have a job to do and I also know that it at times can be stressful however since we know that it wasn't me that was at fault I would appreciate it if you would from now on talk to me in your office or out of others hearing." From there the boss should apologize, if not look for a different job. The boss is a jerk.
2006-10-07 15:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never get anywhere in life by yelling back! Tell him that you want to talk to him about what happened the other day. Very calmly tell him that your feelings were hurt when he yelled at you in front of other employees. Tell him (gently, now...he is your boss) that you don't think that was a very professional way to act. Let him know what an asset you are and what you contribute. Then ask him for an aoplogy in front of the others.
This is one situation where it's easy to get emotional and yell back, but if you remain calm and conduct yourself in a professional (and adult) like manner he will be more likely to listen to you and apologize.
2006-10-07 15:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key to surviving a corporate atmosphere...ride the waves...don't make waves.
Its past news, if your boss isn't mature enough to apologize then don't point this fact out. As this will only make the boss think you are a finger pointer or a trouble maker, if not hold a grudge.
Part of being an employee is taking the crap. People who take the crap end up getting promoted to dish out the crap. Those that speak up about the crap, only get more crap.
Like the old saying goes "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything"
2006-10-07 15:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does owe you an apology, but you won't get it. However his management skills suck and he needs to know his actions are not acceptable. Calmly visit his office and explain that you were embarrassed by his public humiliation and that no one deserves to be yelled at in front of other workers - especially before all the facts were know. Request that in the future if he has a problem he speak with you privately. Thank him and excuse yourself to get back to your job.
2006-10-07 15:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to tell him how you feel and he should apologize whether public or private. If then their is no apology...tell him his flaw as a boss...yelling at you in front of other co-workers and that you hope that this degrading action towards you will not happen in the future.
In other words, you need to go higher up over his head next time.Just let this one slip with the warning.
2006-10-07 15:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that he owes you an apology, and tell him that was unacceptable to yell at you in from of other people and on top of that you didn't even do what he was yelling about. That is unprofessional when management does that, and there's a way to let him know your point in a calm, and professional manner. But I would definetely would be having a talk with him.
2006-10-07 15:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk in private with him. this would be modeling the appropriate behavior for him and how and where he should have spoken to you. never expect an apology- they are rare. be geniune in your talk with him and speak in "I" comments (not YOU) comments. hopefully, he will have a new found respect for you. i would not expect him to apologize in front of the others - or at all. that's just the way it is. although, sometimes you will get a real person who will.
good luck.
2006-10-07 15:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by jilli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. People will eventually hear the truth "through the grapevine" and know that your boss was wrong.
Unless you are about to quit, then you can tell him off in front of everyone on your way out.
2006-10-07 15:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your darn right you should get an apology!
But guess what, you probably won't get one, but you should tell him that you were upset by it and it was inappropriate to yell at you in front of everyone else.
And suggest he get his facts straight before yelling at anyone.
2006-10-07 15:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by talk4now2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋