Was she always Gay? Did situations in life make her become Gay?
2006-10-07 08:05:21 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would imagine she was always gay.
30 years ago, a LOT of gay people tried to hide it by marrying someone they probably liked, but didn't love.
2006-10-07 08:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm with a partner today that was married for 35 years to a man. Between her and I there was an instant attraction. Like she has told me, the day that she met my eyes she was going to be in a world of trouble. She was born in 45. Which means "old school". You settled down, you got married and you had kids. What all that means is, that a woman feared loving the right person openly. So she settles and sacrficed the purpose of love for the meaning of love. It's really sad that for 35 years she settled for the idea of love. Any woman that has to settle for love is a very sad thing because today I witness on a daily basis the sacrifices that she has made. What I read on her face every morning is a sadness or grief for the years that we could of had. This includes you men too.
5 years later she still meets my eyes and she gives me the same look today that she did then. Oh f--- I am in a world of trouble (grin). With that said, it was never the marriage that made her Gay. It had always been there watiing for her to really fall in love with the right gender
2006-10-09 07:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by blkindskyin1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, taking in the 30 yrs ago thing, I would say that back then it wasnt acceptable for a women or a man to be out and proud so for her to have married a man isnt that surprising. My mom is 55 yrs old, married to a man for like 25 yrs, and just came out 5 months ago. She always felt that she was different, but was afraid to come out because of what society would think. Nowadays, for the most part, its more accepted. Of course we still have plenty of bible thumping hateful breeders to deal with, but that will never change completely. If she suddenly left him and decided to live as a lesbian, she probley faught with herself for years about it, Im sure it wasnt an overnight thing.
2006-10-07 08:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was always gay. One does not "become" gay.
I was married for nearly 20 years. I always have known I was gay, but I didnt want to disappoint my parents so I dated girls, married one and had 2 kids. I realize now that the marriage was a big mistake, but I am glad I have my two (now teenage daughters)
2006-10-07 09:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably realized that it was now or never. And while she was still able to, enjoy the last half of her life, living it the way SHE wanted. 30 years ago she lived as was expected of her. I'm guessing she lived in or near a small town or in the country. I see a lot of that....people in their 40's coming out afterbeing married. I think it was different for the city people. They had more options available to them back then.
2006-10-07 13:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably always was Gay. Maybe she was hoping it would go away. Maybe she wanted to wait until her kids were grown up before she did something about it. I doubt situations in life made her become Gay. I think you are born that way.
2006-10-07 08:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sabina 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The probability is that she always was and tried to bury it , ignore it, or otherwise not acknowledge it.
Society teaches us what we are SUPPOSED to want out of life, and many people have difficulty straying from it.
Later in life, when a person comes more into herself, she may not be as okay with pretending to be someone that she is not.
That said...
It is actually a fairly common event for a woman to come out later in life.
2006-10-07 08:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was always gay she just happened to marry cause of societial pressures. He was probably her best friend who just happened to have a penis.. she could't bare it anymore. The truth always comes out in the wash.
2006-10-08 18:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Namaste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were probably rather difficult 30 years. She had better get moving, she has 30 years to make up for; great for her gf !
2006-10-07 08:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by reggaeboi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋