the baby is two years old and the father does not support the family.
2006-10-07 07:45:25 · 22 answers · asked by eva h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did she have the baby before you to met and got married or did she cheat on you?
If she had the baby before you 2 were an item, then there really isn't anything you can blame her for, she didn't do anything wrong and nothing against you. So if you love her you will learn to deal with it. However, if she cheated on you, I would be mortified and would have to reevaluate the relationship and see whats best for all parties involved.
2006-10-07 07:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch your butt - the fact that you have accepted this child and been raising it as your own could make you financially responsible for it. So if you think making a run for it is going to give you a clean slate - NOT. You may hurt now - if you also have to support the child you will REALLY be pissed and hurt. So before you add to your problems,check with a lawyer in your state just to see what your obligations are. Once you see the big picture you can make a better decision. To stay together, what do you need from your wife? Would an apology once a week and true remorse help you - not to the groveling point, but you are thinking about this much more often then your wife, and she needs to know you need the extra assurance. What was the reason she was doing another guy? Has anything changed - because if not, history will repeat itself. Sorry for you Bud.
2006-10-07 07:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few questions come to mind:
Has this been your wife for the last two years or more, since she had the baby?
If so, it should have been obvious whether or not you could remain married to her then. To remain married means you loved her and was willing to forgive her.
Or did you marry her knowing she had a child by another man?
If so, I would say you must have loved her when you got married or you wouldn't have married her. And you had to know that marrying her would also be taking responsibilty of caring for the child.
Whether or not the father of the child takes care of the child does not negate your love for your wife.
2006-10-07 07:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by TenJac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either love her or you don't. If you do, then you need to learn to forgive her for what she did. If not, move on. It is not good to be together if you aren't able to move past it.
Sometimes, people can't move past things like that! It takes a huge toll on the trust and respect in a relationship. However, it is possible. Get counceling, learn to forgive, love that child, and take care of your family. It can work out!! Good luck
2006-10-07 07:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a women, I have too give you credit for staying around this long. I would have left my man right away if he had cheated on me. You obviously love your wife since you did stay but you may never trust her again.
Has she done anything else like that since? If not, then maybe you trust her more then you think.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-07 07:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not able to get over the fact that she cheated & had a baby then you need to move on.
2006-10-07 07:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she cheat on you when she was married to you? When did you find out? How did you find out? Take these questions into consideration. I can't because you just asked a simple question, without expanding on your proplem in a paragraph format.
2006-10-07 07:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Chef G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sucks. Is your call if you can forget or forgive in the power of love. Or you just move on: enjoy the freedom and get somebody better.
2006-10-07 07:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u love her cuz if not leave her,if she loved u so much she wouldnt have cheated,and she needs to file for child support,and if u care about her u can still be friends if thats not to wierd
2006-10-07 07:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision... do you and her have a good relationship today? can you face the kid on a daily basis without a bad feeling?
2006-10-10 08:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by MarriedMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋