Break up with a boyfriend, who really loves you....i mean i like him...but i don't feel the same way as he does for me...i don't want to hurt his feelings, and i still want us to be friends, but i'm afraid if we broke up, we wouldn't have that friendship anymore...and i've talked to him before about this, be he keeps saying that he will be a better bf, and that he will change for me...but that's not what i want....he's a great guy and everything,and he's "perfect", it's just i don't see us together...so what's the best way to tell him??...any advice helps...thanx...
2006-10-07 07:40:30 · 8 answers · asked by pshh =] 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What Are Some Things I Should Say To Him??...
2006-10-07 07:44:49 · update #1
You need to express to him that it's not about him being a better boyfriend or making changes in his behavior, it's about you and how you feel and though you love him as a friend you can not commit your heart to this intense relationship since you are not sure what it is that you want right now and care too much about him to lose his friendship while you explore other aspects of your personality as well as other interests. It is not something he did or can undo...it's about you and your development and progress in becoming the person you want to be. If he gets upset and doesn't want to remain at least friends...then he never really loved or respected your relationship in the first place and you'll be better off without him in the long run. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-07 07:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case honesty is the best approach. Tell him you he's a great guy but you don't feel the same. So let him know that you will be happier if you guys remain as friends and that if he really cares about you then he should understand that. Most people love someone because the other person makes them happy. So in reality it's a selfish love not the actual love for the other person. So yes if he has selfish love then he may be difficult to get rid of and he may even get defensive. So expect that if he behaves that way.
2006-10-07 14:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe this.. i read about gurlz who broke up with thier bf'z coz they found'em cheatin' & here, u got this perfect guy who lovez u soo much & wantz to be the best bf for u, & yet u don't want him! life iz soo weird sometimez.. I say give this guy a chance ,, guyz like that only come once in a life time .. what more do you want than someone who simply adorez u?! .. try to use ur brain & dont rush into somethin' ull probably regret later on.. coz ur guyz a keeper!
2006-10-07 14:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you really like him, he's a sweet man, and you really enjoyed dating him but need to move on because you don't see a future with him. Tell him you love him the way he is and that you'd hate for him to have to change for you. If yall are friends you can still hang out, see movies sometimes, but not like a bf/gf relationship. Also make sure to tell him when he isn't down, that'll make it bad.
2006-10-07 14:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any lied and excuse is good - but is painful for him to accept.
You let somebody go too far in feelings. Is no way to be friends any more. Break his heart with the true and move on.
2006-10-07 14:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never break with real lover, other u will sure lose anything very close to u.
2006-10-07 14:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by A BOY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, People don"t change
2006-10-07 14:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jonathan I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him read this..maybe he'll get the picture.
2006-10-07 14:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋