Together 4 years, 2 kids. One of my own previously. He is a police officer who is overbearing and I feel he does everything. He makes all the dicisions, gets the groceries even. The only thing I feel like is a maid. I am lost somewhere cause this isn't me.
2006-10-07 07:30:33 · 9 answers · asked by shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
start making decisions on your own , and ask what he thinks , also tell him how you fell about some of the decisions that he has made , if he can't handle your making decisions or questioning his , then he may have a control issue
2006-10-07 07:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you dont prefer suggestion with reference to the age in which you had your daughter, in spite of if it provides you with an expertise of why you sense so under pressure. you have been with your boyfriend on the grounds which you have been sixteen...you have been nevertheless a newborn and it became a time once you'll have been experiencing existence and acquaintances....a time once you'll have been gaining wisdom of roughly your self...your likes, your dislikes. then you definately had a newborn at 18....you have been in charge for a newborn once you extremely didnt understand who you have been. You have been a newborn having a newborn. You have been predicted to act like a in charge person while in actual actuality you weren't given the prospect to alter into an person. You went from a youngster right into a in charge person in a count of four years. You have been with one guy all this time, so each and every of the flaws your persons have been experiencing, you weren't. You have been in a committed courting too youthful and it is now you are trying to get those years lower back. in case you are able to comprehend that, you will comprehend why you sense so under pressure. I dont understand if there is an ordinary answer to this. maybe you should talk on your boyrfriend and ask him to take the infant for a evening to allow you bypass out with acquaintances and attempt to re-capture your toddlers. you have too lots accountability for a youngster. What approximately your mom? ought to she take your daughter for a evening or 2 on a generic foundation so which you have the time to do the flaws that a youngster ought to be doing? Your daughter is familiar with you like her, so Im useful it is going to not draw back her if she spends time together with her father or her grandmother. you should finally end up.....you lost your toddlers to accountability in the previous it sluggish.
2016-11-26 23:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say being a police offier, he is used in being in charge. Thta is what he is doing to you. You need to sit down with him and discuss how you really feel and the both of you come to some sort of compromise. If the situation does not change even after intervention if required, you will need to leave so that you can be independent and feel better about yourself.
2006-10-07 07:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by ACE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have known him better before being together and begetting a kid. Try to convince him as you have to think of your children.. Seperation if inevitable in case of crossing the limits .Dont be disheartened and feel as a maid. You have every right to live as you like.
2006-10-07 07:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by khayum p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that sounds like a tough spot to be in. the obvious answer is to try and talk with him and let him know how you feel and maybe even think about couples therapy. i know that's a lot easier said than done. my wife and i have gone through periods where we were feeling the same way and the only way we dealt with it was by talking to each other. communication is the key.
2006-10-07 07:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by summers0504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know the feeling of being STUCK! Gradually let him know you want to make choices and decisions no matter what he does or says stick with it. Small sacrafices make drastic changes, have you sat down with him and had a heart to heart. Leave a letter in his car before his leaves for work explaining how your feeling trapped. Talk.. talk .. talk... He will never know unless u tell him.
2006-10-07 07:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking the world? Talk to him! And say **** this and do what you do! I just tried it and I feel great and I'm really happy now!
2006-10-07 07:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by GiR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel, he wont be able to make a some sort of change in his behavior unless you let it be known to him, once you do things may start to improve for you...
2006-10-07 07:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to leave, and find yourself again.
2006-10-07 07:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋