if your friend movie out of your home and then keep comeing to you for food and leaves without saying goodbye i feel she is useing me
2006-10-07 07:28:08 · 12 answers · asked by vanessa e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would feel the same way... and it would be hard, but I would try to say something to her about how you feel. Just say "you don't really even say hi anymore, it seems like you're just wanting to eat my food". Good Luck!
2006-10-07 07:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by cheer8ko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sure is, without a doubt using you. Very simply, if she has a key, you need to change the locks. If you let her in, then it is up to you to draw a line in the sand and show her your boundaries. If you are not okay with her coming over just to eat your food, then you need to make that clear to her. If you don't want to make waves and don't feel comfortable standing up for yourself, then you will have to accept that you are allowing her to take advantage of you.
Here is the thing: people only get away with what you let them get away with. Letting someone do something that you don't like, and not saying anything while expecting them to "just know" that you want them to stop is called PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE and is very bad behavior to foster in your own character. Not only is that damaging to your life, but it is a huge burden on your personal relationships.
She cannot use you if you do not let her. Not telling her this and showing her the door is your part of the problem. Her part is that she is willing to take advantage of people who care for her. In my book, this means she doesn't really deserve your friendship so you should not feel any guilt for removing her from your life or putting a large distance emotionally between you. Take my advice and stand up for yourself with her and everyone else and do not fall into a passive aggressive pattern of behavior.
2006-10-07 07:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by BadSarahBad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be using you. Tell her you can't afford to feed her anymore since you are now responcible for the bills she used to help you with. Then you'll find out if she still comes around to see you not just for food.
2006-10-07 07:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a real friend, i would ask what the deal is, and just be sincere and say that you feel that youre being used, and see how they react, and if its a bad confrontation, get them out of your life before they start using you for other things too!!
2006-10-07 08:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is using u
2006-10-07 07:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep playing horrible practicle jokes on them untill they don't come back he he
2006-10-07 07:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being used. You should tell her to give you some grocery money.
2006-10-07 07:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go wrong feeding a hungry person. That is the least you can do for any human being.
2006-10-07 07:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her not come back. That's very rude of her to do that!
2006-10-07 07:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW LONG WILL THAT GO ON?YOU ARE NOT HELPING HER BY GIVING HER THE FOOD ALWAYS.DOES SHE NOT HAVE A JOB?THEN HELP HER FIND ONE &LET HER LEARN TO FEND FOR HERSELF.
2006-10-07 07:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋