i broke up with my boyfriend in on april 30.....found out i was pregnant on may 10......had to come back to him......im now 6 and a half months pregnant and i can't stand him at all...he constantly gets on my last nerves and when i tell him to leave he thinks im just kidding.......i dont talk to him....i dont touch him...don't nothing...i dont want my child around him or anything......how do i prove to him that im very serious and i want him to leave.....i dont regret being pregnant....i just regret being pregnant with his child....now i can't stand him at all....help!
2006-10-07 06:54:24 · 14 answers · asked by sweetness 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i went though the same thing, at firs i thought it was because i was pregnant (you know sometimes when you are pregnant you can't stand your mate) i used to vomit and stress out right before he got to the house after work... when i had my child i realized it was him i didn't want to be with him... we wanted to stay together fr the child, but when my daughter was a 8 months we just had to separate... he hated me but later he realized that we just got along better as friends... is healthier for the kids not to see us fighting..... i have a little girl, i didn't want to show her she had to fight and be with someone if she didn't want to.. is not healthy....
2006-10-07 07:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by tjdeya24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Be honest, you can even write him a letter. Sit down and have a serious one-on-one. If you just say it randomly he may think it's just hormones or something. I'd try to find somewere else to live. As far as your kid not seeing him, I'm not sure if you can get away with that without just cause. Try to focus on the baby, and not it's daddy. Your regret of being pregnant with his child isn't a bad one, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise. When I thought I was pregnant with my bf's kid it occured to me that I didn't want his baby. Doesn't make you a bad person! Hope it all works out for you!
2006-10-07 14:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl it sounds like you know what you already want to do. So why don't you do it? The baby will probably have to be part of his life that is the right the father gets, but if you are that miserable with him you should tell him that you both need to go your seperate ways and you wont keep the baby from him. He will have to pay child support to help the baby and you out, but to me it seems like he is making yours and the babies life miserable. I know what you mean. I am pregnant 39 weeks and 2 days right now and believe me you don't need that extra stress. Do what is best!!!!!
2006-10-07 14:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by pj2226_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant and your moods and your hormones are going crazy right now. You need to stop putting yourself through so much stress because your baby is feeling everything you are feeling. Let the baby's father help you with anything you need. At least he is wanting to be there. Allow him to be a father and help even though you cant stand him. I have a daughter that doesnt know her father because chose not to be around and now she is 14 and it is hard so, dont make any irrational decisions now.
2006-10-07 14:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not right you got a man who wants to help you out with the baby and there arnt many men out there who will stand by there women so you cant stop the man from being the father of the child all you can do is let him be in the childs life and find another guy you want to be with
2006-10-07 14:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a healthy attitude.
Seriously though, pregnant women are hormonal. Wait until you've had time for your body to come back to normalcy before you make any life-altering decisions. The fact that he's willing to be in the picture at all is a good thing.
2006-10-07 15:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that horrible then why did you go back to him? For the baby? I'm sure it was more than that.
Leave if you have too but my suggestion is to not make too big of a mess of things. You may hate him today and change your mind another day.
A good friend of mine hated her husband during both of her pregnancies. He smelled bad to her so He spent 9 months on the couch. That was many years ago and they are happy today.
2006-10-07 14:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me also, so i know how you feel. but i was lucky and he was already with someone else. but the ***** convinced him that he wasn't the father and he didn't want tro help me. so i ended up giving them (TWINS!!!!) up for adoption. i wasn't playing that game. it's a hard decision if you want him to be in the child's life though. how do you think he will be as a father? will he help you out? maybe you should just move out instead.
2006-10-07 14:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're going to get your point across is to just leave. You sound miserable with him & you don't need the stress right now.
2006-10-07 13:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now, and start another life. You aren't the first single mother, and you won't be the last. Put your child first.
2006-10-07 14:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by ericnifromnm081970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋