we have joint custody, our oldest son lives with me age 10 and our youngest 2 boys live with their mom. no matter what i do she is always calling and harassing me about what i do with the boys when i have them. she doesnt like it because i live with my parents and i have my mom pick up the boys from her or the babysitter so i do not have to have contact with her. she says i am not a fit parent and she is always threatening me to take the oldest boy away from me. she tells me i am not a good parent but she agreed to the joint custody. she is always calling on the nights i have visitation with the boys and wanting me to keep them all night which i do not have a problem with so in reality i have the kids more than she does but i am tired of her telling me what i should do with the boys and where i can take them or who i have pick them up. does she have the right to dictate to me whether or not i have my mom pick up my kids? she is harassing me all the time.
2006-10-07 06:31:47 · 12 answers · asked by racefan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tape some of these conversations..... might be interesting to a judge in the event you guys ever did go back to court. Sounds like she just wants to make you as miserable as possible, I would seriously talk to my atty. about getting some type of restraining order against her.
2006-10-07 06:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is still bitter about the divorce and is abusing the only remaining tie that she has to you..your boys. I would write her a letter and supply her a notebook that the two of you can exchange when you pick up/drop off. Advise her that you will not interact with her verbally until her threats and manipulation stops. If she addresses personal issues in the notebook, disregard them and only address valid issues regarding the boys.
If this does not work, you may have to see a personal protection order and petition the court for a exchange order. In this order, the court can set a place and person that will pick up/drop off your kids.
Sounds like she needs a boyfriend. Until then, just keep being a good dad and don't worry about her fits and threats. The less you react the better.
Good luck to you and keep being a great dad!
2006-10-07 06:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions, be honest:
The son that lives with you, Does he go to school? Is is well fed? Is he taken care of? If he is sick, is he taken to the doctors? Does he have clothes to ware and are the clean?
For the other 2: Do you spend quality time with them? Make sure that they are cared for when they are with you?
And last, do all three of the children know that you love them, beyond life?
If you can say yes to all, then she has not got a leg to stand on. As I see it, you need to remind her that she is your Ex and since you are no longer married, she has no rule over you. Tell her to back off. Reminder her that this effects the children and try not to let her see that it is bothering you. Take the power away from her.
2006-10-07 06:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it is specifically stated you & you alone must pick up your boys in the custody statement filed in a court of law, it is ok for your mom to pick them up. You may want to record a phone call/email/keep a letter your exwife communicated to you regarding who picks up the boys & what she is threatening. If she ever does take you to court you will have evidence supporting your word against hers. Also, because of her threats, you may want to secure an attorney so you will not lose what custody of your children you already have. Peace to you & your boys.
2006-10-07 06:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she does not have the right to constantly call and intimidate you. NO X has that right. In your shoes, normally I would hang up, and not listen to her nonsense. However in your situation where she is threatening you, I would let the machine pick it up and let her threats be recorded. Then SAVE it for IF/WHEN she attempts to prove you an unfit parent. YOU will have proof of her threats on tape, when it goes to court!
2006-10-07 06:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to nip this in the bud, quick! Do not let her
tell you what, where, how, unless you are a bad parent,
which if you have one of the kids, you aren't. Explain to
her that unless it's important plz leave a message and
that she is distrubing your home life. Unless it is an emergency this is getting like haressment. And tell it to
her straight up!
2006-10-07 06:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're being a good responsible parent she has to back off.
What you can tell her is.....I don't call you and question you when you have the children and I'm not going to allow you to question me when I have them......then hang up.
2006-10-07 06:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just using the kids as a pawn to hurt you. tell her to stop hiding her issues behind the kids and tell you what is really pissing her off. Tell her it is not fair to the boys to use them as pawns to hurt you and that they will grow to resent her for it. ask her to sit down and write you a letter about what is really upsetting her and then you will talk to her about it after you read the letter.
2006-10-07 06:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your divorced? costody is already done and If you pay her support then dont answer the phone but in return do you call her?
2006-10-07 06:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋