since I turn 40, I have been looking at my life now and where I thought Id be at this time. Needless to say I m no where near where I thought Id be, after a few set back in life I am still laughing and happy within. My only set back is losing my husband and now being in a non emotional relationship. I am finding that I am more sensitive and I can cry on a dime! I never could do so b4 Is anyone else emotional and analizing life now?
2006-10-07 06:27:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you listening to everyone else I am not alone!I loved turning 40 I just dont know what to do after 40. I havent seen a dr in along time (no insr)thats why its so easy to stay where I am.for the first time i am scared, thanks again for your feed back
2006-10-07 18:59:37 · update #1
Turning 40 can be hard for some. For me, it seemed like the very worse thing that has ever happened to me. I have been unable to admit that I'm over 40 until this last year. I'll be 47 in Nov. I think it's because we've reached the half way point in our lives and we examine what we have accomplished so far and the need to re-evaluate the time we have left. A lot of us haven't reached our life goals or are anywhere near them. That can be very depressing. I am also taking antidepressants and I am just now beginning to wean myself off, with my dr's help of course.
Life is too short to be unhappy. Quality of life is first and foremost now. After so many years of looking after others, I am finally finding time to look after myself.
Having friends who are the same age is a great thing. Or, what has been suggested to me too is counselling. But I think knowing that you are NOT alone is also a very big help.
The sensitivity is hormonal. Have you seen your doctor lately? It would be a good idea to talk to him/her how you are right now. If the relationship is not making you happy, then get out of it. Think of yourself!
I wish you good luck in your adventure!
2006-10-07 07:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 42 and find that, lately, I am a bit more emotional, but I am not analyzing life. I try to enjoy it, especially with my fiance. I spent half my life in hell with my ex husband, his abuse of me, his kids, and drugs, his lying and cheating, etc. I have found new freedom since I left him and find that I am where I have always wanted to be with my fiance than I ever would have been with my ex. So, I really have no need to analyze my life, at least not now.
I don't know if it's the age thing or what, but I think it might have something to do with being a bit more emotional. I went to my fiance's teen girls taekwando testing this morning, and for some odd reason I wanted to cry, but I held it back and didn't do it. I have NO idea why I wanted to cry, but I did. I guess I was just feeling more emotional this morning than usual. I don't usually cry over just anything; it usually takes quite a bit to get me to cry, so I don't know what caused it this morning or what causes it at other times when there is no explanation for it.
2006-10-07 15:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 40, you crest the hill of your life and you see The End ahead. Some people get heavy into one religion or another (depending on which one they were most familiar with as children). Others grow despondent, as they realize that they won't ever be able to do what, as children, they'd dreamed of doing when they grew up. Most finally realize their mortality for the first time, right around age 40.
But good news. By age 50, you've gotten used to the inescapability of death, and nearly everybody turns their focus to making their remaining years count as much as possible. One of the things you can do is be a good grandparent and save up a legacy for your grandkids to inherit.
2006-10-07 13:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by David S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be 42 tomorrow and I lost my wife almost 10 years ago.I have always been an emotional man but when I woke up and found her next to me gone I have been even more so and still wondering what I can do with my life.
2006-10-07 13:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by looking1964 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called mid life honey. My dr. put me on prozac. She said it might be the beginning of menopause. It has helped. Having friends and family to turn to will also help. If the relationship you are in is not right for you...get out.
2006-10-07 13:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
odds are you aren't getting the emotional release from your relationship ... and that is why you are so emotional about other things... your non-emotional relationship is not healthy ... get out of it and move on to what you really want.
2006-10-07 13:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you turned 40, that must suck, I am not looking forward to it
2006-10-07 13:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋