I need advice on my relationship please?

Question

i been dating this guy for almost a year and half and we just recently got engaged.. hes a bit older than me but we are getting married but i'm still in love with my ex boyfriend what should i do??? I don't want to hurt my fiancee i love him to death too but i wish i could just marry both of them and be happy help me

Answer 1

You are one mixed up person
I can see that you are confused
Your love to that person is because you are reminded of the love to your daddy, and you are in love with the other one because he has no clue what to do with you and like just to have sex with you as a female Dog every time.
You seek security, but you wish to have more outdoor life.

Answer 2

Uh okay this one is a no brainer. What your emotions tell you to do and what you should do is two different things. Your still in love with your ex? Even if you don't get back with him, you can't share the love between the two. The hurt will go away, make your choice the correct one and in the future they will be easier when you run into things like this. If you still love your ex, then you don't need to be engaged. Did you engage him not to hurt his feelings? Not to say no? If so, you have started out a relationship on a rocky foundation that will end in tragedy.
Back off the engagement. Search out your feelings to make sure your still in love with the ex and that is not ill feelings or regret or you not liking youself for something you did to cause the break up. Many times if we cause the breakup we feel resentment toward ourselves over it and wish to make it right. Once its right again, the interest fades. And in this case, you could lose someone that really loves you. At the end of the day, if you find you really love your ex, let the fiancee go. Your doing him an injustice by not being all there for him and your hurting youself.

Answer 3

I went out with a guy once for about six years then we split up and then we got back togater again. We then got engaged and were due to get married in december 2004, however I called the whole thing off because even though I loved him to death, I wasn't IN LOVE with him anymore. Yes he was upset and angry, but time is a healer. You have to ask yourself which one you see a future with, who ticks all the right boxes and so on. Remember the grass isnt always greener on the other side of the fence. Maybe the relationship you are in now isnt as exciting as it once was and thats why you harbour feelings for your ex. You also have to ask yourself, why he is you ex, there must have been a reason why you split up!!!!!! Sometimes or like me it never works out second time round. Anyway I hope you make the right choice and even if you don't I always say.......you always get it wrong before you get it right!!! so good luck

Answer 4

Well of course you can't marry both of them i don't think they would like that. LOl~ If your still in love with your ex it would be a mistake to get married to this other man even if you love him it could be a mistake. You should call the engagement off until you feel what is the right thing in your heart. It would be selfish to put your fiance through something if you aren't fully committed to his love.

Answer 5

At this point I think you should walk away from both men for a time until you can get yourself straightened out. It's possible to love more than one person but it's not possible to be IN love with 2 men at once. I'd suggest that you talk to your fiance and tell him that you need time to find yourself and call off your engagement. I couldn't imagine how you feel because I am marrying in about 3 weeks and would be devistated to find out that the man I am going to marry has feelings for another person.

Answer 6

Why have you been with this guy for so long if you don't love him?Is it cause of money?I think you should think really hard and long about this before you get married cause u don't want to marry someone you don't love and never see where things could have gone with the one u do love. Maybe u should call your ex and find out where u two stand.

Answer 7

I think it's natural to have doubts before getting married. Everybody has been there - it's that not everybody admits that. Just say it this way - you are scared of commitment at this point because you have doubts whether or not this is the man with whom you want to spent your lifetime. But on the other hand you never know what life with him is going to be before you get married. I think you should marry your fiance and everything will be as good as in every family, if not there is always divorce to come out of situation. Don't be afraid of making mistakes in life, be afraid of not making them because that means that you have never lived at all.

Answer 8

It is very easy to get confused in life. Don't worry, it happens to many people.

It is too hard to give advice in position when i don't know many things about both relations.

Have you tried to put on 2 papers, one from each guy, all their good and bad things, things you like and don't like.
Then to write all the things that Will be important for you to have in the future (I don't mean on material), and the to make your own opinion which of the guy is the one that you should married.

Just don't do a big mistake to get married before you are 100% sure that you want exactly that guy.

Answer 9

If you think you're mature enough to make a commitment like getting engaged then you should have enough sense to realize that an ex is just that...an EX! Sounds to me that you are wondering what could have been and need to focus on what is now. Don't worry about your ex, you tried it once and it failed. Make a new life for yourself and leave the past alone

Answer 10

You should definitely hold off on the marriage if you are having feelings for someone else, but remember this other guy is your ex for a reason. I don't personally know all the details of your relationship but you should not carry anything any further until you take a good look at your choices. Marriage is a serious thing and you shouldn't go into it with any regrets.