my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a month we talk about getting married we want to get married we love each other with everything we have and i am ready to get engaged but not wanting to get married right away but my boyfriend seems really resistant and wont even talk about it. he says he is scared but he also says that he wants to marry me.... ADVISE PLEASE!
2006-10-07 05:59:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it's too soon - i believe it takes 2-3 years to get to really know someone - besides why rush? it will happen when it's supposed to - you'll be able to "feel" it - just enjoy each day w/ him now and don't have this hanging over your (or his) shoulders.
2006-10-07 06:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart... There are no guarantees young or old when you decide to tie the knot... A year and a half is not that long though.... Decide when you are ready. Don't reconsider at the alter... Consider life after the beautiful gown, unbelievable wedding, honeymoon... After all is said and done... The marriage begins... Till death do you part or when you are served with divorce papers... Good luck...
2006-10-07 13:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by dreamdewberrys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time. Do not push. Wait for some time. There is no need to rush into getting married if you both are alittle unsure. Rushing is making a mistake that you both will pay for later on down the line. I say Wait
2006-10-07 13:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and him are all ready happy don't make getting married a big deal. You have to remember how hard it was for him to ask you in first place.Time tells everything and a title doesn't determine how in love you guys are
2006-10-07 13:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married when i was very very young, and we have an excellent marriage. i know a 56 year old man who got married and was divorced within 6 months. it all depends on how much you love each other and how much you are commited to each other. it is important to know if you actually LOVE them and aren't just infatuated with them. maturity is very important. and if you aren't sure, if there is doubt, don't do it. the divorce rate is so high because people rush into things without thinking, and don't expect to have to work at their marriage.
2006-10-07 13:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by lucas w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF HE SCARED YOU SHOLUD PROBABLY WAIT UNTIL YALL BOTH ARE READY.YOU DON'T WANT 2 GET MARRIED WHEN HE IS NOT READY BECUZ IT WILL SEEM AS IF U FORCED OR MADE HIM DO IT.JUST GIVE HIM SOME TIME DON'T RUSH. THE LONGER U WAIT 2 GET MARRIED THE BETTER THE MARRIAGE WILL BE AND THE LONGER IT WILL LAST.
2006-10-07 13:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dymechick A*K*A Asberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You're still in the honeymoon period of a relationship. You may be ready to get married, but he isn't. Let it go. It will either happen or it won't but harping on it to him will only make sure that you don't.
2006-10-07 13:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married needs time and patience so try not to rush into anything. Do you know each other well? and are you able to make commitments to each other? if not, I advise you to get to know each other better before making big decisions..best of luck!
2006-10-07 13:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by white rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love someone and you know it's right then what the hect, but you ghave to be absolutely ready to have tons of money to provide each other with the things you need. you also better hope your parents are going to provide you. and of course school. don't forget about school.
2006-10-07 13:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by patricia angeles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, neither of you are ready for marriage by your own admission, you just want the commitment of an engagement to assuage your insecurity.
2006-10-07 13:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋