i think my marriage is over... my husband cheated and thinks he is gay. we are trying counseling but my husband doesn't seem interested in it- he is skeptical. we're in our 20's - no kids- but we have a new house and dogs. neither of us can afford to live in the house by ourselves...where do i go? can't live in an appt because of my dogs (big dogs) and can't give them away- we love them. i am lonely, lost, and dont know where to turn. my husband and i are still living in the house together but i dont know how long its going to last. he's one of those people that is independant and can be alone with no fears. i am scared of being aloneand don't even like spending the day alone on my day off. i'm scared out of my mind and i already miss him. i feel like my heart was torn apart and i dont know how to repair it.
2006-10-07 05:43:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for fresh.
2006-10-07 05:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am divorced single mom. You are going to have to roll up ur sleeves and move on. There is life after marriage. One day you will look back at all of this and say to urself "How did I put up with so much bull from him?" Now the first thing is that u will have to get a lawyer and see what will become urs and im sure the house proceeds will be divided up between the two of u!! Start looking for a place of ur own. Maybe with ur share of the house proceeds u can purchase something or ur own. Then u can call the shots and not have anyone else to tell u what to do and it will be your very own place!! Be strong!!
Good Luck
from Toronto
2006-10-07 06:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "traditional" marriage, or the "traditional" family anymore. As a Christian it bothers me that there are so many other Christians that are so against gay marriage. The Bible speaks against sex before marriage - why not move to have co-habitation of heterosexual couples made illegal? Or how about sex before marriage for that fact? You may not agree with a person's sexual orientation but that doesn't make them any less of a person and any less worthy of equality. Tricky Mind says "maybe God likes gay people" - God loves anyone gay or straight. The sooner the right wing fundamentalists get that the better.
2016-03-18 06:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pittsburg, I s'ppose you're a nurse by profession. That's what your avatar suggests. Be that as it may, I'll suggest you go to your parents if they're alive and live around you. You need to begin again, somehow - but it just has to be on a very clean slate. Remember, once beaten twice shy they say. If you can put yourself together and be very sincere with yourself, you'll soon meet a very nice and understanding guy who'll not only be your match but a lover indeed - in all ramifications. Cheers and have a very nice week-end.
2006-10-07 05:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it appears you have no choice but to get out and move on. Being alone sucks at first but you may be amazed at howmuch you can accomplish on your own. When you are ready start dating again and find someone that does want to be with you. Time is the only thing that can heal a broken heart ( and I am speaking from experience) As for the dogs see if you can stay with a neighbor with a yard till you get back on your feet.
2006-10-07 08:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, but I'm sure there are support groups that can help you adjust to and cope with your pain. I know every things seems hopeless at the moment, but this will only make stronger and give you the strength to make it on your own once again. Just remember that before you and him were a couple, there was a "you". Good luck.
2006-10-07 06:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by nycrunner69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that can repair your heart. Move back in with your parents, if possible, or get a roommate where you are. As far as he goes, he's already left....he just hasn't gone yet physically. It will not be easy, but you CAN do this....and be a stronger person as a result. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 05:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the house immediately. Don't even think about repairing the relationship. Save your sanity and your health.
You can't repair your heart by yourself -- you need real help, and not the kind you get from a forum like this. You need to get serious counseling from a qualified counselor immediately -- if you are a member of a church, see if there is a counselor on staff.
2006-10-07 05:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by asperens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are struggling about where to go and nothing else. I suggest finding a cheap apartment, or townhouse complex which allows dogs and move. Ask your friends if you can bunk with them for a while.
Your marriage is over. I am sorry for him.
2006-10-07 06:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you.
Most people say to give counseling a year, go to a Christian marriage counselor if you are a Christian.
But your case is unique. Still go to counseling just even to help yourself with your fear issues.
You can get a roomate.
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2006-10-07 05:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he likes the taste of penis, its so over already its ridiculouse. Do you have ant family you can fall back on for now? I feel so bad for you, Its tough but you are still young and there is someone special waiting for you. Good luck.
2006-10-07 05:52:06 · answer #11 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋