i really like this guy alot and when we first met i already felt like i knew him but the only problem is is that he has a problem with shooting up ice and i dont do that. but for some reason , i dont know if it is god telling me or if its in my head, but i want to still be withh hiim and help him. i have a major something pushing me and my feelings to help him. that is all i think about. i dont go to church but i believe in god and i am wondering if god wants me to help hi9m and what should i do. i felt an instant connection wit5h him and i never felt that way before.. even with my ex hubsand. i dont know him well but i feel like i do help?
2006-10-07 05:41:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my opinion, HE NEEDS help, allright but from the right people, that is, are you trained in this area of Counseling or, this type AT ALL?
That's where you need to be careful, ok?
In the first place, this guy HAS to want HELP before you EVEN think of lending a hand! OK?
You wouldn't want him to "bring you down", especially if you should get romantically involved! Thin of this too, ok?
Just be a Friend first, but, to me, it wouldn't be a good idea to get to this "help" level yet!
I'm only telling you this so that you don't DIVE IN and get caught up in his life! This would for sure drag your life down! SO, again, be careful how you go about this!
1 more thing, I have a gut feeling that it would be wise NOT to get personally involved. Stay at a safe "distance", cuz if the guy is shooting up, often, or whatever, the thing is, the fact he is doing this PERIOD, is a very BAD sign, and he has problems! Maybe he's popping pills and smoking pot, you never know!
Please watch out and keep in touch!
Sincerely
2006-10-07 05:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a problem with methamphetamines. Believe me when I tell you this. There is nothing you can do. He has to want to do it. You are putting yourself at risk of Aids not to mention the physical risk that comes from being in the drug environment. These people are not necessarily known to be nice and experience uncontrollable mood swings. All you can do is let him know what you feel for him and that you will stand by him if and when he's willing to get help but let him know that you don't want to be around him when he's high and stand by that. I destroyed so much of my life with drugs and it wasn't until I stopped that I realized that my use affected others that I cared about. Good luck and stay strong.
2006-10-07 12:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend and help him. You can't be in a romantic relationship with him right now because he isn't in a well position to give of himself. It will take a lot from you to help him. be prepared and above all else do this FROM your heart not FOR your heart. If you are helping him for the affection you will only hurt yourself.
You have to care what's best for him before his wants...before your wants. Let him get well for him not for you. If not then it won't last. He has to want it. After he says that's what he wants then and only then can you begin to help him.
Good Luck to you.
ps. pity never taught anyone anything... but love has saved many.
2006-10-07 18:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by chance_ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!! You need to get this guy some help. Ice is a VERY serious drug and he needs to get clean. It's good that you want to help him but that drug will make him a monster so be careful and if you really do care for him be mindful of that. Bottom line, don't condone the drug habit. If it comes down to you or the drug leave him and find someone better.
2006-10-07 12:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Hendo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say prayers for him! It is sweet of you to care for another person so much. Unless he wants to change there is not much you can do. Talk to him and try to get him to get help if you can't then walk away before you get into a relationship that you don't need to be in. Good luck to you and please listen.
2006-10-07 12:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to help him just be understanding that he may not be ready and to be quite honest with you addiction is not an easy thing he has to be ready to quit you cant force him.
2006-10-07 12:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by rustin_morley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him like the plague. There is no god.
2006-10-07 12:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kaptain Krakatoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him like the plague. He's a druggie. You can do better.
2006-10-07 12:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would help him. i mean God came to serve not to be served so i mean that might click or might not. but yea i mean i would help this guy.
hope that helps
2006-10-07 12:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by polobaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then make the major decision
2006-10-07 12:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋