she has only been with me for 11yr we have 3 boys were shes 27 and im 29. now she dresses in sexy cloths goes out with lady friend says she wonts to stay married and be sepertaed and still be in the same bed with me what to do?
2006-10-07 05:35:37 · 28 answers · asked by james t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
James,
She was nice enough to tell you instead of going behind your back.
She has been with you since she was 16. That's very young, and she feels like she missed out on a lot.
Stay married. Let her go out and have fun. She'll come back to you and your marriage will be stronger. She'll see that she has everything she needs in you.
2006-10-07 05:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well If my best friend came to me with this question I would tell him to leave her, as she is gonna end up breaking your heart. I don't beleive any marriage can survive with a third party involvement. I am sure she would not want you sleeping with someone else. I really would give her an choice sleep around and its over, how are you going to sleep beside her on a night knowing she has slept with other men. I am sure you deserve better and there will be someone out there that wants to stay true to you. Let her go.
2006-10-07 05:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got self belief the place your coming from. i replaced into negleted in a courting formerly and that's a horrble feeling, particularly in case you like the guy. If he has shown affection and is basically now negecting then you definately something perhaps incorrect. It perhaps something your doing or something thats occurring in his existence thats giving him a confusing time and he basically isnt interior the temper. and whether thats the case you additionally should chat approximately that because of the fact in case your his lady buddy he could be tender with speaking to you approximately problems in his existence. So refer to him, tell him the type you experience and stress the reality that it wont get to any extent further beneficial if he isnt truthful with how he feels.
2016-10-15 22:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by ranford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her cake and eat it to. Wants to play around while you stay at home and pay the bills and take care of the kids....using you.
You have to ask yourself why does she want this.....you are not taking care of buisness somewhere along the road.....she just is not stimulated in your relationship anymore....and is looking for fun and adventure elsewhere. Wants to hang with you until she gets a better deal.
Find a really good lawyer.....unless you like being walked on, then stay put.
2006-10-07 05:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Cow! you have been together half your lives..... marriage is more then in the bedroom. If you have grown apart in one area, you need to learn what she needs from you. I know women expect you to read between the lines, I'm one of them.... What I think she wants is to be free like a single person but she still wants her husband as well.
Maybe you should start dating your wife.
With three kids at such a young age, I wonder if she feels like she has missed out on "sowing her oats". Adults need to act like ones sometimes, x-rated at times too.
Hey babe, Take a walk on the wild side...
2006-10-07 08:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by talk4now2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wish to be played as a cuckolded fool, ok, otherwise... D.I.V.O.R.C.E !!!!!!
Your answer should be to leave her clothes and personal stuff out on the lawn ... its over ... you are now nothing more than a bank account to her. why would you want to pay for her to play with others?
Here is a clue .. most women who cheat dont tell their husbands, she wants you to pay the expense of the divorce so she doesn;t look like the bad guy here ... my guess is she has already been sampling but cant afford to divorce you and her new b/f wont pay for it AND he doesn't want the kids. you are well rid of her.
2006-10-07 05:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her there is no way in hell your going to agree to such a thing. She wants her cake and eat it to! And wants to do it right under your nose! She needs a rude awakening about what life is suppose to be, not what she fantasies it to be!! Get yourself a lawyer, get custody of your children, since she seems to be more interested in "other men" then she is about her children, their well being or you. So sorry this is happening to you. Don't let her do this to you, you don't deserve this, neither do your children!!
2006-10-07 05:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is 27 and has been with you for 11 years you been withher most of her life and you took her teen years from her and she wants a new beginning but continue to keep you inher life she just wants to see what she missed. she wants her cake and eat it too. ask her if she would do a 3 some. lol.
2006-10-07 05:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by crow_rez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She want her cake and eat it to. You should ask her if she wants to swing.She has this idea that two are better than one .From past experience I done that with an ex wife before we divorced. It was fun at first very risky and did not last for long
2006-10-07 05:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate.
Sit and think about *why* she wants to do this. What is it that she is lacking in her relationship with you that she is out seeking now? If you really love her, figure this out or discuss it with her, then make an effort to take care of her.
I can understand where she is coming from...
2006-10-07 05:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋