so i took a relationship to far. but i love him. i want to do more. i dont know haw to tell him that he is ganna be a farther of 2. but we are only 13
2006-10-07 05:22:40 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hm-mm,
congratulations,people are looking for such good news, if just one but all effort to get such is in vain, you should be grateful to God, though your age might be small,i want you to know God has a purpose for the life of those twins. pls seek the face of God and go to your parent to break the good news to him.pls don't ever make a mistake of committing abortion which is a sin against God.
However, if he rejects the pregnancy,go on and deliver those lovely twins, they might be the ones to wipe away your tears. Wish you a save delivery.
2006-10-07 05:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Funmi A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l am sorry, Kate, but I believe this is fantasy and that is not good for you whether you are 13 or 23. You have a parent or guardian and they would lay the news on the sperm donor and then contact law enforcement. It is illegal here in California for ANY person under 18 to have sex. A technicality, yes, but the DA can and does file criminal charges against legal children who are so without a positive parent role model that they would have sex that results in pregnancy. You are posting a phony question because you are fantasizing the dilemma. Stop and think about the tragedy for a child or twins born to ANY teenager who has no means to support a child, much less any knowledge of how to raise a child. And the teen-kid father? His life is over because his education is cut short and any legal job he gets will have his wages garnisheed for child support. And the teen mother? She most likely applies for welfare and medi-cal and that ends her life of achievement because she is sitting home being home schooled and changing diapers. Your fantasy has no doubt gotten a lot of other people angry.
2006-10-07 05:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay so as much as I want to be harsh I don't have the heart, I'm sure that your getting enough right now. You need to tell him and I know that your scared, is anyone being supportive? I'm thinking that you should give them up for adoption, you have a whole life ahead of you. You can see about open adoption if your worried about the babies not knowing who and why gave them up. You must be hurting right now, but remember that there are people out there who do care.
2006-10-07 06:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Angela K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all to all of you who are belittling this young lady, you all need to grow up. I am quite sure that everyone of you have made a mistake in your life. Don't you all realize that responses like the ones that you are giving her is the reason why young girls make bad decisions when they find that they are pregnant. She needs support not sarcasm. To the young lady who asked the question please tell your parents that you are pregnant so that they can help you. Yes, you are young but many have made the same mistake as you. Don't allow this to hold you back, I hope that you have the type of parents that will help you make the right decision. Whatever you do don't hide it from them. They can help. As for your boyfriend, have your parents take you to meet with him and his parents so that all of you hopefully can make the decision. Good luck and again don't let this hold you back. Please finish school. And to the idiot who said that he is going to jail it is not statutory rape when they are the same age. And to all of you with your smart a** comments didn't your mother teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.
2006-10-07 05:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, that is way too much responcibility for a 13 yr old, you've probably just started jr.high! What were you doing having unprotected sex in the first place... In a matter of fact what were you doing having sex in the first place...shouldn't you have been home watching cartoons?! How do you define love? at your age you should be scared to hold hands with someone:S... umm put it on him easy first tell your rent b/c they will have to deal with the situation even more to than him at the moment, Make sure his rents know as well...
Don't quit school! and please be responsable!! you do not know what you have gotten yourself into yet! this is something that will be around for the rest of your life!
2006-10-07 05:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't even know what to say to this. Well, number 1, you don't love him. You think you do. Trust me, you don't love him. You are 13 years old, you honestly have no clue what love is. Secondly, I hope you plan on having an abortion. I am 100% against abortion but you are a child yourself, you'd never be able to raise a set of twins. My mother was 15 when she had a set of twins, my older brother and sister. Do you know what she told me, "Life as you know it is now over!"
2006-10-07 05:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on. You're 13. You've already made a huge mistake, what more do you want to do? You're going to have to just tell him. Sit him down while he's alone and tell him that he's going to be a father. If you're going to do something like that at such a young age you are just going to have to face the consequences. You should have thought about that before you had sex.
2006-10-07 05:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all yu pple giving all sorts of advice, ask the proper questions like
1) how do you know yu are pregnant?
2) How do yu know yu gonna have twins? did a doctor tell yu that? cos he/she should be contacting yur guardian. not saying anything to yu. (if this is true)
3) i dont think yur reproductive systems matured enuff to take it from the medical perspective. (if this is true)
4) there are much more things to life that you barely have the faintest idea.
ADVICE: contact yur parents, keep it and battle what ever probs come up.
good luck
2006-10-07 05:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by ChuK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents before you do anything. Let them know that you realize that you made a mistake and you wont do it again. Frist off WHAT ARE YOU DOING HAVING SEX AT 13!!!! secondly just be prepared to get lectured at, dont talk back. My sister was in the same situation just she was 19 but yeah it was a pretty long difficult process, just be careful and dont talk back! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-07 05:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Sit down and tell him that you are pregnant and that you are having twins. Tell him what you are hoping from him whether you want him to be a part of your children's lives. I don't know if you are going to get what you want from the father of your children. Depending on his age he may be really scared and not want anything to do with you or your children. I hope it all works out for you the way that you want it to. Good Luck!
2006-10-07 05:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋