Wife and I have Been married for 10yr with two kids. She says I'm a great dad, wounderfull person, good husband but lack in the romance and commuication area.She's 30 but recently meet a 21 yr o' guy that works in the same field of work shes in. Shes allready spent the night but clams not to have sex But wants get back on the pill so she can. Everyday that goes by she seems more cold harted and has said she has nothing left to give to our marriage. I'm not ready to lose her. This is not the 1st time she cheated 2 yr back she had sex with a 18yr guy. Any suggestions or ideas to help. PLEASE
2006-10-07 05:03:27 · 13 answers · asked by Ram330 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stand up for yourself and tell her that your not going to sit back and take this!! She is in la la land right now and she thinks this 21 year old is going to give her all the things she is missing in her marriage. HA, wait until she wakes up and finds out she had what she needed all along, but.... that you have left and started your life over without her. She is living in a fantasy right now, this is lust, NOTHING more. Yeah, she's going to be cold hearted because that's what she is for doing this to you. She is going to miss you after you leave, cause that is exactly what you should do. She is using you and hurting you. You don't deserve this. There is someone out there for you that will treat you with respect, she sure isn't. Don't blame yourself for her stupid mistakes. She is in the wrong here, not you.
2006-10-07 05:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, run for your life. She's obviously not interested in making it work, and we all know that it takes two to make a marriage work. Concentrate on raising your kids and get rid of her. She sounds like a pedophile...really, if a man were doing that we would all be outraged!! It's not ok for her either, she needs help.
2006-10-07 05:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by pickigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are a wonderful person to keep putting up with her, but you are an idiot to stay with her. She has already cheated on you and is planning to do it again. Do you have the word "stupid" tattooed on your forehead? Things are not going to get better wtih her. She has no respect for you or the vows you spoke. She doesn't even care about her children. Kick her out and get a divorce. You can find someone a lot better out there. You can find someone who will really love and honor you.
2006-10-07 05:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to have to tell you this, but your marriage has been over for years now. You want it to work, I know, but it takes two wanting it to work.....she's already gone, and you can't make it happen alone. Take your two kids, love them, and raise them. There's a nice lady out there that will love you, and help you, when you have healed from this terrible hurt. Good Luck my friend.....
2006-10-07 05:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! well i really think that you are giving it your all. I believe that it takes two to fix a marriage and if she is not doing her part i think it will never work! (sorry) tell her that she will get one more chance to try to work at your marriage and see what she says. and if she seems not interested keep your head up! and go get your self a christian women (trust me)
good luck!!!!
2006-10-07 07:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by familygal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't respect you or your relationship. If she did, she wouldn't cheat. Do you want to stay with someone who shows little respect for you?
Tell her that if she is going to behave like that, you want her out of the house and away from your kids. Her lack of morals is not a good example for the children.
2006-10-07 05:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always look at the idea of an open marriage. Is she just with these guys for the physical relationship or is she really in love with them. It sounds like you two have different levels of sexual desire.
2006-10-07 05:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by sup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to the question...
Be strong and be the bigger man for your kids. Make sure you can pay alimony after the divorce..or actually in your case, if you can prove adultery, you may have full custody.
Take Notes! Keep Dates and Times and Receipts..
Luck!
2006-10-07 05:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody deserves to be cheated like this...its been very patient of you to stand her disrespectful attitude towards your marital relationship....but tell me why you are putting up with her??? do you have some weakness (physical of emotional) that is making you do so??? anyhow, i feel you shud ask her to leave....may be then you wud find someone who wud truly appreciate you.
2006-10-07 05:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by roddur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are a dumb ***! I hate to be so harsh but anyone who tolerates that is mentally handicaped. Show yourself some freakin respect and leave her whoring ***.
2006-10-07 05:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋