i dont want to go through the gp but i want help as i am looking after 2children and am all over the place emotionally who could help and what am i supposed to feel like
2006-10-07 04:52:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You must be in bits Helen. There is no text book way to deal with loss, we all deal with it differently. I always turn to my children when i become disillusioned with the world. hold them really close, if you're able, talk to them about your father because they've also lost their grandad and sometimes the children's feelings are overlooked or neglected while the big people try to come to terms with a tragedy. Being a mother you'll probably find that you are rarely afforded the 'time' to acknowledge your grief properly and that the enormity of your loss will often hit you some time after the initial impact. when you do have a little time to yourself ,that is when your loss will truly hit you and it is then that you should allow yourself to grieve in whatever form that takes. Seek solace in your family and derive your strength from them, it is in such tragic circumstances that their collective support will really come to the fore. Sincere sympathies on your huge loss and the very best of wishes for the future. x
2006-10-07 05:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss but have fresh feeling on this subject. I lost my mom 1 1/2 years ago to a long battle with cancer. I am still in a way grieving. It took me several months after losing her to actually start the grieving process due to handling her affairs. when it hit...it hit hard!!! Just cry hun, just cry. After you feel better, go to www.godssweetestangels.com and make a memorial for him, add pictures, comments, bio ect...
Right now, I'm crying with you.
2006-10-07 05:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by patricia d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweety everybody,s different,but do not feel guiltly if your angry at God right now or the world!THats our way of dealing with our pain{Blaiming ourselfs or somebody]!All i can tell you Dear is that its a greeving prosesse!I lost my mom when she was only 52 yrs. old to Diabices,And she was my best friend,at first I was so angry at god for taking her from me,But Now I realize god Took my Mom out of pain and gave her the best life,Heaven!{she was very sick and in pain for so many years,and then I went threw the guilty feelings,Like if only I was a better Daughter,but that to passed!You need time sweety,Thats the best healing method,you don,t miss them any less each year but you learn how to deal and except the lost better!And He really didn,t leave you,he,s in Heaven watching down on you know,And Don,t disapoint Him,He would want you to be strong for the 2 children sake and he wants you happy and live life the best way you can!I,ll pray for dear,God bless,Hollywood
2006-10-07 05:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear, I am very sorry for your lost, especially since it was sudden.
The only thing I can offer you is support if you want to e-mail me you can. Things happen in our lives that we are not ready for, but God gives us the strenght to survive it. Try some hot calming tea, and if necessary call your Doctor for something to alleviate your nerves, your pain. It has to be stressful taking care of 2 children but when something happens like this in the family you might be able to, ask for a little help. I will pray for you and yours. e-mail me if you want and I will give you my phone # God bless you.
2006-10-07 05:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my prayers are with you. you need to talk to someone as soon as possible. either a close friend or a counselor. I know what you are going through as I lost my son in 1998. you are going to go through alot of different emotions and that is normal.just take your time. maybe it would help to visit memory.com you are also welcome to visit my son's site at christopher-proctor-1982.memory-of.com it helped me alot to fix this site for him you may email me at skyrunner1956@yahoo.com if you need to talk.don't let anyone rush you getting over your father's death. you will never get over it but it will get easier to deal with it each day. just smile and try to laugh because it is through your laughter that his memory will continue to live. try not to concentrate on how he died but rather try and remember all the good times the family had.
2006-10-07 05:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Helen! Try praying to God. God is inside you. God is Love. You need to mobilize what is needed to be mobilized within your self - then you can continue to live a REAL LIFE. I think, you are ready mentally and emotionally to BE YOURSELF, which is the most important.
2006-10-07 05:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Viktor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a counselor, a minister or a very good friend. But you can't do this alone. What you are experiencing is totally normal.
For your sake and the childrens, get help.
2006-10-07 04:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss.
I lost my mother in 2001.It took me three years to grieve.
It's gonna take a while,but you gotta pull yourself up.
2006-10-07 04:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by moebiusfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry. you should know that grieving, guilt, and saddness are very normal, so you should just embrace them as they take their turn. you will get over it eventually, whether its in 2 months or 2 years.
2006-10-07 04:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cry. Be by yourself and just cry it out. You will feel a lot better believe me.
I'm terribly sorry for your loss. :( (( )) *hug
2006-10-07 05:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋