Im orginally from Brooklyn, New York & I have now been living in the south for 5 years & the first 3 years I had no problems making friends but the last 2 years its been down hill for me. You see, what happens is that Ill meet someone & they ask me to go out with them & so I do & then we speak for a week & all of a sudden it goes sour. I just dont get it. I know Im not a bad person & I also know that I can be a great friend but I just dont understand why this is happining to me latley. Im starting to feel like I just dont want to make or have any friends at all out here. Im 30 years old & Im starting to think that its pretty sad Im going through this at my age. I would really like it if someone out there can give me some real good advice on what to do.
2006-10-07 04:37:09 · 12 answers · asked by j a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I'm no therapist but I think there's something in your attitude that most people don't like. You might think for a while and think what it is. Do a attitude makeover... LOL...
And whether you don't have a friend at these times, there's Jesus Christ for you that you can talk to... or me!
2006-10-07 04:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by sirius_black2329 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ja, let's get something clear here; it's not possible for you to be friends with everyone. If that is taken, then let's proceed to state that, friendship has levels. If I really understand you, the kind of friendship you want now is beyond the platonic level - someone who'll be closer than just a friend, a lover if you ask me. But you still need to start from the first level, and make sure you establish a level before moving to the next one. If I may tell you (even though I don't know you physically), your problem is that you're in a haste to jump from one level to the other. You make this obvious to those guys to the extent that they capitalize on that to see you as a "desperado". I don't want to say much here cos I won't want you to see me as being insultive. If you need more discussion from me, then contact me through my profile. But I've just told you the simple truth, and I believe that things will change for the better for you if you change your attitude - whether you contact me or not, your happiness is what I'm concerned about. Cheers!
2006-10-07 04:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Trying to be Liked!
We All face times in Our Lives when we are Not the most sought out people!I'm quite sure it's Nothing personal!
Be Yourself!
Your Inner Personality will Shine through -therefore You will draw the right type of 'Friends' who will want to inter-act with you!
2006-10-07 04:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello.. If you could talk to some of them and ask them straight out, what do you see in me that might offend someone... and be prepared for a answer , you might not like, b ut dont get upset. just think about it and if it is something from you, work to change it , if it is a jealousy of them, then you have to associate with a different type of person of your maturity . Dont stop trying to make friends...
2006-10-07 04:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe its the ppl you are running around with. Maybe theyr'e just busy with things. When I got married and had my first child it was like all of my friends ran for the woods. Which is fine because who needs friends like that anyways right? Do you really want to be friends with someone who would ditch you before they really had a chance to get to know you? Cheer up things will get better.
2006-10-07 04:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by amgpsycho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ja,
Just keep trying. We all go through these slumps. At times we just meet people that we are not compatable with. Don't give up there are great people out there just waiting to meet you. Me included.
2006-10-07 04:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Charles H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go talk to people. And if you can, clubs are a great place to meet people. Just let go, have fun, and you're willing to bump into someone.
2006-10-07 04:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
use this time to sort out what your own priorities are for your future.
there's not much point in becoming involved with someone if you haven't thought about what you want or hope to achieve.
maybe you've lost interest in relationships that don't go anywhere.
2006-10-07 05:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t let that bother you ,just be yourself and always be friendly and matters will sort themselves out. I wish you good luck.
2006-10-07 04:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by spatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it possible that you intimidate people? or the people that you go out with are very stuck up, snobs.
2006-10-07 04:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋