since i was single up to now im married... my relatives always asking me money everytime they have emerygency needs and of course i always help them as long as i can, but this time i feel tired of thier bullshit behaviour and stoped listening to them if they have financially problem,most of them are married.. i realized that they must be learn how to be a responsible of thier own problem not to running to me and ask everytime they have problem...i have my own family too,i have own problem too,i have my own life too....
but i think its over they have no shame to themselves they take advanges of my goodness..so i think i should limit my kindness to them????
2006-10-07 04:31:25 · 15 answers · asked by confusegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell them to have a garage sale next time they ask.
2006-10-07 04:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, limit your kindness. They are taking advantage of your kindness and they need to learn to stand up on their own two feet and not depend on you when they get into a bind. Start to say the word NO, sorry, I can't help you this time. Soon they will get the hint and don't be surprised if you loose your relatives over this. Some relatives EXPECT help when they ask and when they don't it, they can turn on you. Hope this doesn't happen to you, but be prepared in case it does. Still....... say no!
2006-10-07 13:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its time to tell them your broke.Make them stand on there own two feet.As long as you are there crutch they will continue to ask. Start asking them to do things for you.Then you will see the tide change. All of a sudden they won`t want much to do with you.Money has a strange way of making friends and enemy's
2006-10-07 12:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hunny, I would stop giving money too!! If you've got your own family and life its obviously not fair to you to keep handing them money even if they do pay it back. There's only so much one person can take. Stop giving them money because what money they're making their obviously blowing it on something they don't need and then running to you in hopes of cash when they do need something. Just stop giving them money they'll be fine.
2006-10-07 11:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B'cos u was a water fish.Maybe u are so rich.U have to stop this kind of helping habit.When u have a problem u think they gonna to help u.No way.Just told them directly that u can't help them anymore.B'cos u need to do your own thing.Sorry l can't help.Than told them u are bc n have to go.Hope like this can help.
2006-10-07 11:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy several copies of a good book on financial planning and give them one when they come asking for money .... time to close the Bank of Ms.
2006-10-07 11:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop giving them money and they should understand u have a family of your own. They will get over it.
2006-10-07 11:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by uniquehzleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most likely the reason why they do this is because there relationship is that great just tell them why do u need the money and give them the minumum
2006-10-07 11:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by malligirl99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got to stop sometime, because they will never stop asking, and thats not right to go your whole life living off of other people kindness
2006-10-07 11:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by You may be right 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very simple, You can only be used as much as you let others use you. Hope this helps.
2006-10-07 11:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋