2006-10-07 04:28:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that you don't agree with her behavior. Be straight up with her with your feelings. If she acts like, "oh well" then find yourself a new best friend. Sounds like your morals are in the right place, but hers are not. Better to loose a friend, then to agree with her way of life.
2006-10-07 06:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your loyalty is to your friend. And if she is cheating as mad as it sounds, it will come out. She will need your friendship in the future.
I would as kindly as you can let her know you don't approve of her cheating. I would encourage her to be safe. I might point out the risk she is exposing her husband and family to. I wouldn't talk about the details of her encounters. I would encourage her to consider leaving her husband if she can't stop her behavior.
It sounds like she is in an unhappy situation. It's better to grapple with marital problems now rather than five years from now. She might be happier in a different relationship, less inclined to cheat. She's looking for something that she is not finding in her marriage.
She's your best friend. She'll need you down the road. My inclination is not to talk to the husband. It feels wicked to betray a friend. The ethical dilemma for me is, if I didn't drop a dime on my friend, and the husband ended up with some nasty STD, I'd feel like I carried that on my conscience.
So I guess maybe the right thing is to tell your friend she has to stop what she is doing or you will have to tell her husband. Which means you lose your best friend. I'm almost glad my best friend's marriage broke up. She's got the cutest younger guy now and my only fear is that he will break her heart.
Sorry for rambling. I wish the best for you and your friend.
Laura
2006-10-07 05:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Laura D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't do anything. It's none of your business unless she is trying to use you as an alibi. Then you can in clear terms tell her that you don't think what she is doing is right and that if she uses you as an alibi and her husband asks you about it ; You will tell him the truth. This should curb her from doing this. However, you will probably be losing a friend. She obviously is a sex addict and it isn't your place to hurt her husband. He will eventually find out and be hurt enough. Try not to enable her. Stop being available to go out clubbing with her or wherever it is that she goes to pick up men. Talk to her ; she is headed down a dangerous path and one that will leave her unfulfilled and truly lonely.
2006-10-07 16:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! What is going on in this marriage that makes her cheat? As her best friend you need to talk to her and find out why she feels the need to do this, was she sexually assalted as a kid, low self esteem what? I have found usually girls that do this have a deeper issue other than cheating, obviosly she is not commited to her husband and there must be a reason. Get her some help and be there for her. She needs to build her self esteem and realize that she does not have to sleep around to feel she is worth something.
2006-10-07 04:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by confusedpatricia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she truly your best friend?? I would sielntly question her motives for being unfaithful..there may be more to the story.
Be HER best friend and have a sit down, not judgemental, just talk. She may feel you think the way she does.....because you've never said anything against it.so she thinks it's ok....
Be her Barometer and throw Caution at her....She's a Big Girl.
If you cannot Condone this Behavior, then Don't be Co-Dependent and stand by idly watching it happen.
Leave her life, take a break and watch the fireworks..
You have more important things happening in your life right?? Go ahead girl, enjoy YOUR life.....
2006-10-07 04:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do for her??? Are you friends with her husband??? If so, then as a friend you should say something to both of them. To the girl .....clean her act up...to the husband....open up your eyes. Keep in mind some husbands and wives allow this type of behavior in their marriage. My husband x is in this type of relationship. No sooner than after she was married she was off on a white water rafting trip with her boyfriend. Her husband knew about this. To each its own.
2006-10-07 04:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell her husband, it is none of your business. But you deal with her, tell her that all of this is going to come back to her, and that you hope and pray that she is prepared for it. Tell her it is not right, what she is doing to her husband, and that if she is not happy in her marriage, then she should get out of it. Do the right thing, say I am talking to you as a friend. I want you to wake up. That their is a lot of diseases out their, and I can see someone getting hurt. so have a bit of respect for yourself.
2006-10-07 04:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO let her find out if he's seen that many she should know something going on and u don't need to be in the middle of it and if she tell u act like it's the 1st time u new anything that way u will stay friends will both.
2006-10-07 04:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not say anything. It is not your place to say anything, and how do you know that he does not know it. Maybe they are a discreet couple, and they do it to each other.
I would never say anything to anyone if I knew someone was cheating on their spouse, g/f, or b/f, because it is none of my business what they do.
I know a lady that has been cheating on her husband for 8+ years, and I know her and her husband and she respects me for not saying anything.
If he does not know she is cheating, he will eventually find out on his own, IF he wants to.
This is my feelings, and I hope that I did not hurt yours.
2006-10-07 04:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your friend is not capable of being true to her husband, what makes you think her friendship is worth a flip???
I wouldn't trust her, as far as I could throw her.
What should you do? Back off. You may be too close when the bullets begin to fly.
2006-10-07 04:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋