I'm 26, i dont' have any social life and am having a hard time finding a job because i can't speak well. In fact having gone to university, i feel the thing that came out of it was just a fat big 20,000 dollar + loan and nothing else. Example: Whenever i go visit the university, like i did yesterday because it's in the city i live..i see bunch of students they are all talkative and they have a great life, and i'm sure they can get jobs easily. It feels bad, that i'm just a failure. I can't get any job and the ones i'm applying for now are just entry level clerical/filing jobs.. it's been 4 years since i've graduated. And i'm nothing. NOTHING. so is university and college just for outgoing/talkative people?
2006-10-07 04:21:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
No. These are two different things: earning a degree and having an extroverted personality. Going to university and getting an education is an investment in yourself. Try not to judge the cost of it as one big expense. This is a long-term investment that may not have immediate gains. Have patience.
Having an extroverted personality is different... you can be talkative or quiet and educated or uneducated at the same time. What did you major in? What school did you go to? I don't think that you should feel as though your personality is preventing you from your career path. At your school... they will have a career placement program to help you find jobs in your field. It helps their ranking in the collegiate realm if they can boast that 99% of their graduates are gainfully employed. In the world... there are placement agencies and head hunters that will do the same. I think that you could benefit from a little practice. In the placement office at school or at a staffing agency/head hunter, they do offer opportunities to practice interviewing. Those will help.
Now... what do you mean that you don't have a social life? Do you want to have a social life? What do you like to do? There are so many ways to get out there and connect. I hope that you will try to interact with people to boost your self-confidence. Many people feel the same way that you do -- it's just a matter of how it is dealt with. Good luck.
p.s. email me if you want to talk more about it.
2006-10-07 04:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shibi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a failure. You managed to graduate college~ that is a fine accomplishment.
Get out of that negative stronghold you have put upon yourself!
If you want to succeed in life you must believe that you can. Many people do not instinctively have the "gift of gab". They have developed the ability to communicate effectively through practice.
Read the books : How to Get Your Point Across in Ten Seconds and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. I guarantee that the strategies presented will put you on the path toward being more articulate and self-confident.
And, you can get these books at your local library so you won't have to invest any more money.
After you read them, however, you are going to want to make these two titles part of your personal library collection to read and review throughout your career.
Good luck!
2006-10-07 11:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being social will help you in all facets of life. Try practicing to be more social. Go to some parties, maybe a football game, or a bar. You need to try and meet more people and quickly become comfortable with them. Don't just say you're not social by nature. I've known lots of people who had to learn how to be social.
2006-10-07 11:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋