I am 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend knows. One day he is happy the next day he doesnt want to hear about it. Sometimes i even think he doesnt want it. I dont know what i should do with him because when he acts like he doesnt care it really hurts my feelings. I know he loves me but im just confused. He does talk about the baby but not all the time like he should. I allways have to bring it up. What should i do?
2006-10-07 03:57:20 · 11 answers · asked by Terril 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is hard for men to feel the same as you about a baby before it comes since he can't see it and doesn't feel it, and maybe it was a bit of a shock for him(?). He will probably come around when the baby is born or when you start showing and it becomes 'real' to him. You should still have a talk with him about it, but guys are different than girls about things like this, try to be understanding of his feelings too. Good luck and Congrats!
2006-10-07 04:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by pebble 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like maybe he's just scared of being a father right now. how old are you, cuz if you're still pretty young than he may be regretting getting you pregnant. who knows? just ask him. once the baby comes, he will realize how awesome it is to be a father. there's just nothing better than sharing the joy of a newborn baby with the one you love. my boyfriend, who' s not even the real dad, by the way, is totally excited about me having a baby. he's already claiming it as his son. lol. i'm so thankful for him. of course he's ready to settle down and start a family even though he's only 21 cuz he's done lived the young crazy life with all the partying and drinking. just talk to your boyfriend. that's the only way you're gonna know for sure because we don't know him, all we can do is assume what may be the problem.
2006-10-07 11:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and tell him how you feel and let him know that you want to know what he is thinking and feekling about this because you are just as scared and confused right now if he doesnt listen or talk give it some time and try again if he still doesnt then tell him you need his support in being in this together if he still doesn t respond them i would tell him to hit the road since he's being of no help to you through this emotional time good luck and i hope this helps and congratulations
2006-10-07 11:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by momma3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men have a harder time, they start to worry about the financial aspect & burden rather than the joy a baby will be. My husband & I planned both pregnancy & he stressed bad w/ both, When the baby started moving & we started shopping he got more into it. Don't woryy consider asking him whats on his mind & reassure him everything will work out plus get him excitted about being someone daddy! Good Luck!
2006-10-07 11:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are a huge responsibility that lasts at least 2 decades . . . you had sex without preparing for that. Women ( because of biology ) are forced to deal . . . the man knows he can still bail even though child support will dog him for 18 years.
I hope you use birth control in the future until you are prepared for your next child.
2006-10-07 11:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys are afraid of obligations and such. if u can handle the truth, ask him directly (and tell him 2 give you direct answers to!). Its better to be hurt ONCE than be hurt for the rst of your life (when you two are together w/ ur baby and he really doesnt care at all). Goodluck to you.
2006-10-07 11:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by jl_003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit him down and talk to him if he does not know that your feelings are getting hurt he will just keep doing it. ask him do he want the baby . ask him do if he loves you. or he maybe just need sometime to get it in his head. just ask him how he feels
2006-10-07 11:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by dylan's wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's natural for men to not be able to accept the fact that your pregnate mabey spend time with him and pick out a name for the baby tell him to try to be more like a father
besides he made it he gets it.
2006-10-07 12:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do, do not abort. thats just flat out merder u want whats best rite. well just talk to him if he dosent licen than is he a true man to u thats the anwser
2006-10-07 12:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by cuitegirl109 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your childs best interest at heart, this is time for enjoyment bringing a new born into this world............
2006-10-07 11:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋