I found a email he had wrote to a woman & the made plans to see each other & did but the e-mail didn't say that had sex. I called the woman & also saw her she was not what I pictured her as. We had a fight about it & after I saw her he had to ask me what happen & after that night we have not talked about it. I love him but i'm scared of loosing him.
2006-10-07 03:26:39 · 25 answers · asked by kimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seek professional counseling immediately! All marriages can be saved if both people work at it. They can even be saved when one of the two takes a hard look at the underlying causes and takes action to turn things around. Divorce always hurts!
2006-10-07 03:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by damdawg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, when you called the woman, what did she say?
When things happen like this between a couple, the one being hurt usually lashes out at the so called innocent one.
Did the email or lady say if your hubby said "he wasn't married"?
LOOKS have nothing to do with why one would cheat on thier spouse. It's the words they speak to each other, and what the cheater is wanting to hear, that he/she isn't hearing at home.
You have to look deep within your own heart and ask yourself : WHY would I want to stay with a cheater?........This could be the first time he's done it, but it could also be the first he's been caught!!
If you want to remain with a cheater, because you love them, then you'll also be living with non-trust issues, pain, and end up making yourself sick all the time from wondering where he is, what's he doing, and who is he with this time.
If this other lady wasn't what you expected, I'm sure later, you'll be seeing one you DID expect to see.............then what?
It doesn't sound like your wanting to let loose of old cheater hubby, so sit him down, talk if that doesn't work, go seek marriage counceling.
2006-10-07 10:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some options to consider:
1. Well, if he is interested in her then become his mistress and seduce him back.
2. Become bitter and suspicious and interrogate his every move.
3. Find a way to humiliate him and try to get even or better, get ahead.
4. Stop looking to somone else to make you feel worthwhile. You are worthwhile with or without him or anyone else.
5. Take advice from people who have never been in a relationship more than six months. They know alot about how it's done and most of the answers on here fit that category.
6. Don't go postal on him, it's not worth it. You will survive this and move on if things don't work out.
2006-10-07 11:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by kellermanintx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A GOOD SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION. SO TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT THAT. TELL HIM UR CONCERNS. EXPLAIN TO HI THAT U WERE WRONG TO READ HIS MAIL, BUT U SORRY AND JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER WOMAN IS. TELL HIM THAT U LOVE HIM A LOT AND DON'T WANNA LOSE HIM! JUST EVERYTHING THAT BOTHERS U. BUT,TO BE SURE THE TALK WON'T TURN INTO A FIGHT, DO IT WHEN BOTH OF U FEEL GOOD AND R RELAXED. FOR EXAMPLE, ON A ROMANTIC DINNER IN UR HOME FOR JUST THE TWO OF YOU OR AFTER SEX IN BED, WHEN BOTH OF U FEEL HAPPY AND RELAXED. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-07 10:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they met that was wrong he is married. You let him off the hook. You need to stand your ground and i can tell you this all he is doing now is being more careful so you do not catch him again. Is he un-happy? if so he might have cheated but you could ask her if they cheated but you might not like what she has to say. I think you need to deal with him cause he is your husband. Try to talk to him about it and tell him the reason you are bringing it up is cause it bothers you.
2006-10-07 10:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is you need to communicate with him, don't you know the key to a successful married life is communication. That is what you have to do, sit him down, and find out what is going on, with him and this lady? you also need to know where you stand in this relationship, does he still want to be married? And why is he going outside of his marriage for companionship? These are questions you need to know the answers to, so you can move on with your life. And do not be scared of losing him, if he wants someone else, why would you waste any tears for him.
2006-10-07 10:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. You are better off WITHOUT him.. Think about it, do you want to spend the rest of your married life thinking and bothered whether he's cheating on you or not? Look for someone who values marriage the same way as you do...someone who is trustworthy.
2006-10-07 10:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, if you think he has cheated, he probably has.
You say you are scared of losing him but why would you want to stay with someone who shows so little respect for you and your marriage?
When you called the woman, what did she say?
2006-10-07 10:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you honey he's NOT worth loving, I'd come right out and ask him, if he cheated on you, you'll know...how dare him, my husband did this to me and let me tell you, I took him back the first time because the Lord said it was right but this LAST time he'll have suffer...
2006-10-07 10:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... he was gonna cheat on u thats for sure.... maybe when he got there he saw that the woman he though wasnt really her.... he should be afraid of osing u... u dont need that crap in your life...
2006-10-07 10:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋