i like her but what should i do but the thing is i'm a female too?

Question

we became friends after a tennis game. we are not in the same class.besides playing tennis together, so all we do is just say "hi -bye" along the corridors.but somehow during those games, i felt i had known her for such a long time.now sch term gonna end soon but i want to keep in touch with her. i have never felt like this before towards guys and it feels like she meant so much to me. so how?im definitely now gonna tell her how i feel. by the way, does this make me a lesbian?

Answer 1

No, it doesn't make you a lesbian. You can be bi or just bi curious if you like have had feelings for men, no matter how strong they are. I'm bi, there is nothing wrong with that. I think its the coolest thing in the world. I would suggest that you first find out if your friend "swings that way" meaning is she a lesbian or bi? You don't want to hurt a good friendship because some people cringe on this issue. You don't want to lose a good friend but if the feelings are mutual I would defiantly talk to her and tell her your true feelings because you don't want to regret what might have been. Get yourself out there and come forward and hopefully you and her can have a great relationship together. Don't be scared. Good luck.

Answer 2

Why is it that a person's sexuality is such a big deal? All that the straight, gay, bi crap lables do is seperate us, build walls and create hate.

To quote a favorite movie, "It's not who you love, it's how you love..."

Take it slow, but keep dropping hints. I take it you're young and it takes some people a long time to be comfortable with who they are (gay, straight or bi for the sake of this message). If she feels uncomfortable she may over-react. Make her comfortable around you and then see if she's interested in you the way you're interested in her.

Don't worry too much about the lables others will try and put on you. YOU are the only one that can lable yourself.

So lable yourself Normal and just remember that you are Unique and however you are, that's normal for you.

Love yourself for being unique and love every one you know and even those you don't know because we're all unique and that's what makes us beautiful.

Love always...

Answer 3

You may be a lesbian, you may be bisexual or you may just be curious.

You may want to try spending more time hanging out together before talking about your crush. Something as simple as sitting and talking over a couple of sports drinks after a match would be a good start. This will give each of you a little time to know each other better.

Instead of hi-bye in the hallway, ask her a question and start a conversation. Also there is nothing wrong with giving her your number and saying that you would like to keep in touch with her.

Answer 4

No, giving up men makes you a lesbian. Having a crush on a girl just makes you a teenager and comfortable with your sexuality.

You're going to do this but it's going to open you up for some serious ridicule, espeically if she does something mean like laugh at you then tell everyone at the school. Think of things from her end. She's going to feel totally blindsided by this and the only chance it won't freak her out is if she's also harboring a secret crush on you. It's all you, however you want to play this but I'd suggest that you make sure she's the one and that she's gay.

Answer 5

I think carora13 has hit the nail on the head and should be given the bonus points, and you might do very well following her suggestion. There's a woman at work who's taken a liking to me, and I don't want to reject a friendship just because she's gay (my assumption, probably right, but private conversation will reveal the truth)(I'm straight). She's a great co-worker and a decent human with terrific humor. She has some of the qualities I like to see in the friends I bring into my life. Whether you or your acquaintance are or are not gay, or are a combination of both, a friendship may still thrive. Friendships are friendships. I don't bed my friends.

Answer 6

Ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. Get her number. Hang out with her. Talk to her. And if really want to persue a relationship with her, see if she wants to take the friendship to that level.Remember, that assumption "Straight until proven otherwise" isn't always correct. Maybe she's just as interested as you are and asking herself some of the same questions. You'll never know what could happen unless you make a move. Oh, and don't worry that much about labels. Just be yourself and be happy.

Answer 7

Do not get hung up in terms like "lesbian." We all have desires, some just are ashamed to admit it and not only do not act on them, but criticize others for acting on them. Do what you feel is best for you, and do not worry about what hung up people think. It is a wide world of need and desire and satisfaction.

Answer 8

It is natural, teenage girls sometimes feel such huge emotions on somebody (May be because they are undergoing too much changes in their bodies (Hormones).

In Islam, being lesbian is a RED line that you should not cross no matter what happened.

Consider her a close friend and don't think about such satanic feelings.

Answer 9

well....is she? Is there any sexual sparks that you feel? Sometimes you just feel close to someone, another female and you can love them to death. BUT that doesn't mean you are a lesbian, just very connected to someone.

If you have romantic or sexual feelings towards her, then I would talk to a counselor.

Answer 10

by the way, what kind of "like" is it? maybe what you feel for her is like a sisterly love/like or just plain friends. i've experienced that one too but i really like that girl but that "like" is like a sisterly like. but if you have some sexual feelings for that girl then i think that would make you a lesbian...