And if the marraige is dead - is persueing a divorce a good idea?
2006-10-07 02:39:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My best friend has tried everything to save her marraige - but it has been awful since the very begining...She's nice, beautiful, and he is a numb robot. He is constantly drinking to numb out. Wants nothing to do with her or the 2 kids. Keeps secrets from her, won't talk to her, won't have sex with her unless she begs, and basically treats her like she is a child... I'm her best friend and it is hard for me to watch this go on year after year for all these years.. She is thinking she should just divorce him...But she is understandably scared of that. - I try not to tell her what to do - because I don't have to live in her shoes -she does. Please help.
2006-10-07 02:55:02 · update #1
When you can tell him dry eyed that it is over and not feel the world is ended at the end of that conversation. If it feels like a wieght has been lifted off your chest than congrats you have survived.
2006-10-07 02:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by littlescreechowl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is so tough to go through , just heartbreaking isn't it? You will know when you can't go anymore in all. You need to set him down an talk it out. You may fear the answer , but you need to know where you stand now. Then you can consider that answer to a divorce or not. But don't give up real soon. Just communicate with him first and tell him more yelling or screaming...just talk to you like an adult. Good Luck Honey , best wishes.
2006-10-07 09:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are writing this He must be dead. Because when you did your wedding vows there must have been something in there about till death do us part. So if your husband is dead then I guess that's when you know your marriage is dead. Otherwise fix it. Marriage is not easy and it takes work to get through hard times.
My mom did me a huge favor by explaining things to me this way. When you get married your husband is now part of your family. There will be times when you get mad at him just like you get mad at your brother but you don't divorce your brother. There will be times when you just don't like him or even you hate him, but you still work at it.
If you can overcome whatever your problems are you will be glad that you did. Divorce destroys lives. Please try to make it work.
2006-10-07 10:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by nicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be held to the highest standards in life. It's a lifetime commitment. You should fight with every means you have save it. It's far too easy to divorce. A good marriage is sometimes, not feeling loved, giving and giving, fighting, arguing... But there will be times when it's reversed. And it all evens out. Fight for it, it will tell you alot about yourself and your future relationships.
2006-10-07 09:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself this and look in the mirror while you are saying it !!!! what do i think!! do i think my marriage is dead! and advice from me stop getting on the computer and telling people you problems and go to your husband and ask him where does he think this marriage is going!! and tell him that he does not have to stay in this relationship if he does not want to!! and do you have children?? well if you do, don't stay together FOR YOUR kids because sooner or later your kid are going to find out an and it will will affect their future marriage and your husband is going to be out there cheating on you and you know it and you are scared to say it because HE MIGHT GET MAD!! either you follow my advice or all this stuff is going to get to you and happen!! and don't think about having kids if you didn't talk to your husband about where e he thinks this marriage is going!! because kid are not going to help the situation!!!!
2006-10-07 09:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by lwilliams 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always try to give a marriage CPR before declaring it dead. Sometimes the marriage can be revived. If it cannot be rescued, then it is time to talk divorce.
2006-10-07 09:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
marriage is dead once you are divorced.. before you get divorced, there's still hope.. you aren't a victim of love.. love is a choice.. you and your spouse need to make the choice to continue loving each other..
2006-10-07 09:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We need more details? Whats wrong with the marriage exactly?
And is the problem worth throwing all that away?
2006-10-07 09:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel nothing. No anger, sadness, just nothing.
2006-10-07 09:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HE WILL LET YOU KNOW...ONLY DIVORCE IF YOU ARE DAMN SURE YOU HAVE ANOTHER CHANCE OF GETTING A GUY.
2006-10-07 09:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋