I love someone and he loved me, then we make a fight and separate for 4 months..then he called me and wanted to be back again..but he don't wnt to tell me, if he loves me or we'll be just friends.. i asked him but his answers wasn't clear enough.. He says that if he say he loves me now, it's responability for him and he don't want to take responsability now..He says that i'm not as a friend...so, who am i to him?
2006-10-07 02:37:28 · 15 answers · asked by Jasmien K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Besides, he know more beautiful and smart girls than me...so, i don't think that he want to use me or waste time with me... I always insist to separate but he come again and don't want to lose me..but i don't know in which way?
2006-10-07 02:48:12 · update #1
You are the weird cow who blew her chance and he does not want to get invcolved with a head case so..you are actually HISTORY
2006-10-07 02:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I don't have any quick answers for you, but I can tell
you "how" I feel about it, okay? When you love someone, you start out becoming friends, right? well, If all he wants is to be friends right now, that says a lot. Friendship is very special in itself, it's not just a word. And if it grows into something "more," great. If it does "not," and you simply remain friends, you have a friend indeed. Real, true friends are hard to come by, so treasure what you have, take this slowly, and try not to "think" about what it might end up being, okay? If nothing else, you'll have a good friend to love. Either way, good luck to you both.
2006-10-07 09:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what have you been doing for the past 4 months? Have you been socially active? Do you know if he has been socially active? From your question, It seems as though he has "true" committment issues. If he is confused in his feelings at this point, I would think that he's not ready for "Love", even if you had it before the fight. If he doesn't want to make the decision of what kind of relationship you two have. YOU make it... What do you want it to be, keep in mind 4 months have passed and you are both different people. Maybe if the love you shared is true, things will come around, if not, it never was and you got off cheap in a life lesson learned learned (no divorce). I would say for you to keep on doing what you were doing and let him come to you. You ARE worth it ! ! ! Love will shine to you in its own good time. Just be yourself.
2006-10-07 09:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he loves you he's just afraid of the commitment that comes a long in a relationship. When he says your not a friend that mean he see's you more than that. I would take that as a good sign. Take things slow for now, give it a little time. He'll get tired of just being "friends" but that's when you put your foot down and demand more from him. Don't let him play around with your feelings and if that's what you feel he'll do than take his advise and just be his friend but for now you should give it some time and go from there.
2006-10-07 09:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A plaything. Someone he can use because you let him. And just like a kid with a plaything - when they get tired of it, they throw it away or shove it to the back of the closet or lose it and don't remember where they put it.
Stop being a doormat. Get out of that relationship now.
2006-10-07 09:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Only he can really answer that. What you need to do is ask yourself if you are just a friend to him, or some kinda friends with benefits can you live with that? Do you think it'll ever be anything more? Good Luck :)
2006-10-07 09:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't ready to be in a relationship. move on.. because it don't sound as if he will be ready anytime soon either..
he wants probably to get back for the convient piece of *** you give out . and he dont have to worry about where he is going to get it..
Find someone who will treat you with respect.. and don't jump in to bed with them first thing.. date and see how they are going to treat you.. know something about them before you start a relationship..
They will use you for one thing only if that is what you are letting them do..
Think about it for a while.. do you want to be just a piece of *** or do you want the whole relationship..
2006-10-07 09:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit commitment for some one to say they love you does not mean they don't but men are like that they think if they tell you they love you that amounts to marriage and kids don't worry it will work out
2006-10-07 09:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. Tell him no, that is not how you feel about him. And if he can't make a commitment, then you don't care to see him anymore.
2006-10-07 09:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing.. you know what, if he cant give you a true answer to your question then he does not love you.. if he loves you he would tell you straight, hes just leading oyu on.. take it from me, leave his sorry ***, shut him out of your life, and go have fun.. hes not worth anymore of your time
2006-10-07 09:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Julz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is just confused, so therefore cannot tell you how he really feels. I would say ditch him, you don't owe him the dignity of waiting until he makes up his mind! Good Luck!
2006-10-07 09:39:03 · answer #11 · answered by cheer8ko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋