My husband has apparently been a 'sex addict' from the age of 11, and I found out only 5 months ago, he is doing everything as a recovering addict (I hope), but because he has done so many things I find it very hard to cope..........from guys to prostitutes.
2006-10-07 02:17:28 · 14 answers · asked by frankie b 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
NO WAY!!! I am very sorry to hear this, and it seems more and more men fall into this every day! I would really give it up to him for trying to fix his problem, but at the same time probably not be able to be by he side like he vowed to do with you!!! He took your safety in his hands, and acted as though it didn't matter to him! Is he aware of how much pain he has caused you?? I am truly sorry I can olny begin to imagine! Keep on pushing, you WILL get through it!
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2016-04-22 21:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it boils down to trust, after all Michael Douglas is recovered and much in love with CZJ.
Why did he not tell you? Maybe he was afraid he would lose you if he told you the truth. But do talk about trust issues.
My husband (now ex-hubby) slept around, he had been with 4 different women within less than a year (I found out when I was pregnant with our 3rd child), he ran off with one of them in the end only to come back.
It was trust in the end, I didn't trust him and divorced him (after he went out for the night and didn't return until a week later!) and I fell out of love with him.
Your questions (in my opinion) should be 1) Do I love him? 2) Do I trust him? then after you have answered these to yourself, sit down and have a good talk.
As a last resort you could try therapy. GB and I wish you all the luck for the future :o)
2006-10-07 02:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. If you only found out 5 months ago then he has been lying to you and leading a double life all these years. He could of put your health at risk get out of the relationship he is not worthy of your loyalty.Go and make a fresh start for yourself love doesn't hurt like that.Good luck.
2006-10-07 03:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does one miss 30 years of behaviors ? and have you been to the doc for a comprehensive screening ?
Getting over it ? Unless you are an uber liberal at adapting, I think you better get out and get on with a new life. Think as it as a form of death ( the guy you thought you knew doesn't exist and never will ). Maybe write a paper for prospective brides on the importance of awareness, but your issue is way too big to resolve here.
2006-10-07 02:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this must have come as the biggest and hardest thing you have ever had to cope with.... i know that addictions are difficult to shift, but he needs to prove whole heartedly that he is going to stay on the straight and narrow path and if you plan to stay by his side then both of you must be open and talk even if its so upsetting, because this will help mend your broken and shattered heart and start to heal little by little......i feel for you my friend, but don't despair, if you need a chat or just want to let off steam, send a message to answers.......
2006-10-07 02:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by fossil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that you have found this out so late into your marriage. it must be hard to cope with and understand why he feels this way. sometimes things happen for a reason and maybe this is your reason to start your life again and find someone who loves you for who you are and not live a lie. gud luck with everything xxx
2006-10-07 02:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by spensmum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to deal with him anymore. I think out of respect for you he should have said something before thirty years went by and he put you at risk for all kinds of stuff. I say leave and move on and be happy. If you stay I don't see how your bitterness would ever go away. It's too much more hurt dealing with it.
2006-10-07 02:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by adi23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds that you want to make the marriage work? you should go see a marriage counselor.what is harder to cope with that he cheated on you? or that he had sex with men and prostitutes?
2006-10-07 02:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by sar sar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya thats not real normal, but guys do seem to want sex more, and being with another guy, that happens too, have you had this conversation with him, not trying to sould mean, but is there anything you could do to spice the love life more?
2006-10-07 03:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Alan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋