I still do romantic things and it does not seem to inspire him to reciprocate. I feel like he has become too comfortable and feels it is not necessary to keep the fire going!
2006-10-07 01:58:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many people don't realize that romance is not always automatic. In the beginning it is, it comes more easily, but as time goes by, like you said, people get comfortable in their relationships. This is when you move your relationship into deeper levels of COMMUNICATION, which is a major major aspect of marriage.
In other words, TELL him that you really loved the romance and need/want more of it. Tell him you love flowers, or date-night or foot rubs. Or whatever does it for you. Many people think romance is natural just because in the beginning it usually is. They think having to TALK about it takes away from it. This is not true, try it... you will see. You will get the romance you crave,.... and who knows what he will get, but I am sure you will not leave him disappointed... ; )
2006-10-07 02:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about this at all....It is your job to stay excited! Setting up romantic get aways, evenings, picnics, wearing slinky things in the morning rather than at night will light his fire....over time he may surprise you...years down the road is where your reward will be. Don't sweat it....keep being this way.....in marriage we take turns filling in the gaps, just be sweet as honey in your speech, don't nag, or complain, never criticize, and be happy with your man, laugh at his jokes, cater to his every whim, and somewhere down the road...he will come through for you in a major way. We are all different, we can not expect each other to
respond the same. Judge not others according to how you think or how you would handle a situation. God is a big God, use his
guide book for marriage, The Holy Bible....the NIV, or the parallel version of the NIV and the Message Bible works for me!
2006-10-07 02:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Read the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands By Dr laura Schlesinger it can help if you do things right he will do things right too. you cant' assume just because you do somthing you consider romantic that he will. Do you take interest and or participate in things he likes to do? Do you push him away when he approaches you and do you have to be in control of when you have sex with him, when, where ,how, how often? Ask yourself are you making yourself desirable to him? Are you nagging him about stuff etc?
2006-10-07 02:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun look that is up too you and no one else maby u should sit down with him and talk to him tell him how u feel.you never no mabe he feels the same but let me tell you if he doesnt want to talk or listen to you then thats not a husband.but this is something that u need to figure out on ur own.the key words arnt comunacvation its love.ask your self do u love him?is the fire still burning like it was when u both met?talk to him and try.i pray and give u hope that every thing works out
hugs and kisses
cassie
2006-10-07 02:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by teardrops 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men can be a little dense. I think you need to just bluntly tell him what you want and need. Be very specific. I am sure it is not because he doesn't love you- he just doesn't know how to show you in the right way. Be blunt and just tell him. And what ever you do don't do it when your angry. Tell him when you can be calm and explain clearly. I am sure you will find that he will do whatever it is that you need him to do.
2006-10-07 02:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out what he is feeling or not feeling . It is not always what we want . find out what he needs from you. maybe he is having some problems and if he is he will only be intimidated and turned off by your romantic jesters. I have learned it is really hard for a man if he cant please his mate like they think they should.
2006-10-07 02:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know aside from everything else you've heard, this might be an honest medical condition. Try counselling and I'm sure you'll find out
2006-10-07 02:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and tell him you miss the times when he did things for you, like the time he (insert example here). And you want him to do those things again.
2006-10-07 02:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him i will be romantic for you, that might fire him up!
2006-10-07 02:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and explain your wants and needs; otherwise, it can shut down completely
2006-10-07 02:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋