Hi! I'm 19 and i'm really in love with my brazilian boyfriend, his building 2 houses in Brazil and I work in a big multinational, he wants me to marry him and go live with him(he's 22) there in the south of Brazil... I need some opinions!!!
Thanks alot!
2006-10-07 01:55:41 · 17 answers · asked by Andrea B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is decission is yours,
but I will tell you this from a woman that have left her in he US to married a man of different nationality and move to his country
I felt very happy and prout that I was strong anough to make that decision, I don't what the future will bring but I think my decision was the best that I have ever made
I have a lot of brazilians friends you will not regret getting to know those people (if you should decide to move)
but try to learn portugese
my advise is go spent a long vacation before moving
& the world does not revolve around the US learn to appriciate new Horizone / with phone and the internet you will feel like you never left
Good LUCK
aGAIN here another prejudice coment from Favour
again Brazil is not the US
my husband build his first home when he turn 18
it is the norm for man in certain country at 18 to be giving a piece of land to build
by the way I way 19 when I purchase my first home in Boston
while many woman and man in the US are 40 and still can't afford their own
so I keep your prejudice to yourself
Sorry dear I just had to answer Favour
again Good luck
2006-10-07 02:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are only 18 and moving to Brazil will be hard and put a lot of stress on the relationship and you could very well come to regret it and if you want to leave you will be isolated from your family and friends that could help you. You would be at his mercy and under his control. Do you really want to put yourself in that kind of situation? If it was my daughter I would say Hell No get married and live here for a while 3 to 5yrs first then if everything is working fine you can move.
2006-10-07 02:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which do you love the most, your boyfriend or your home? You need to really think this over carefully, as it will make a big change in your life. Of course, change is what life is all about really. Things are always changing. We are always changing. A move could be a good new experience. Or not. Only you can decide if you are ready for it. Hope everything works out for the best for you!
2006-10-07 02:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by harridan5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest opinion:First at all,you are so young,so,you need to investigate really well about him.Before you even think in marriage,you can go (not alone),with one of your family and this man,to visit Brazil.Forget about he has houses in Brazil,because the main decision here is :to go to Brazil and live with him there.Brazil is another world,completely different to your country.My good advice as a yahoo's friend is: Visit Brazil first without compromise and then,you will have the whole picture about if you can live there or not.But please talk with your family first,investigate well who is the family of this man,if he is really a good man or not,etc.Good luck.Do not take rush decisions that you will regret after.Relax,think very carefully,think good.You can investigate about life,culture,people of Brazil in the Internet.
2006-10-07 02:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know more about his background and his family if you haven't done that already. I had many brazillian friends while in graduate school, and as far as I know about them, I don't think the brazillians have the same attitude towards marriage and relationship as most americans. they tend to be much more loose with fidelity in relationships and marriage. not that there's anything wrong with it, but you need to know if you can handle it. if this person is the love of you life then great, but I think it's worth taking the time to find out since you are going to be living there.
moreover, if I were you, I wouldn't settle down so young, you are only 19!!! at least be with more men before making the decision of marrying. quite frankly, at 19 ,you as a person both emotionally and physically are not fully developped, what you see as "being in love" will look very very differently even two years from now. so why tie yourself down so early?
2006-10-07 02:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you known him?
what have you talked about? anything real like religion, politics or the wars going on.
What kinds of music do you both like.
are you a city girl? and will you be ok not living in a city and having the comforts you have here.
what about medical care? how good is it?
TV - it's all in spanish, are you fluent enough to follow it.
Lots of things to consider before making a move like that.
Sounds as if it would be fun for a while but you might get bored and want something more.
It's your choice. I only have some issues you should consider before leaving.
2006-10-07 02:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, if you really love him, u wont think about anything but to be with him..based on what uv written, he's financially stable so dont worry about ur job..if ur thinking of being away to ur family, i think u can bring them there to visit you or u can always come back to visit them as well...whatever will make you happy..
u have to be sure with ur feelings before anything else because ull be living in another country..its far from home..and come to think of it..ur only 19...still so young..there are more things that may come your way..dont rush
2006-10-07 02:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by 3sh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you be away from your family?
Do you speak his language?
Is you job a real good one that you would regret loosing?
Remember, women are treated different in other countries.
There is NO dominant females and women have NO opinions about anything.
If all this is worth your love, then go with him.
2006-10-07 01:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, UR YOUNG, BUT IF YOU LOVE HIM, AND THING THAT HE REALLY LOVES U TOO- GO ON! MARRY HIM AND LEAVE! EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY AND SEEK HAPPINESS. I'M 26, FROM EUROPE, I RECENTLY GOT MARRIED TO A WONDERFUL MAN, WHOM I LOVE MORE THAN MY LIFE AND HE LOVES ME THE SAME WAY ALSO. IN MAY, WE R LEAVING FOR THE USA TO LIVE THERE AND MY WHOLE FAMILY, ALL MY FRIENDS STAY HERE. BUT I THINK THAT'S THE BEST FOR ME. MY ADVISE IS: GO FOR IT!!!
2006-10-07 02:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with your parents for their opinion, or witth friends. It is a big decision to move to another country and needs to be considered very carefully.
2006-10-07 01:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋