I am getting engaged very soon. Don't get me wrong! I love my boyfriend more than I ever loved anyone in my life, and he treats me like a princess. I don't want to be with anyone else. But, know that it's happening, it's getting very serious, I feel scared. I wanted to get engaged and am very happy now. Still, I am scared this might not be the right decision. I'm afraid this feeling might ruin it for us. I love him so much. Did you go through this as well? How can I get over it? Is it normal? Thank you for sharing.
2006-10-07 01:31:00 · 16 answers · asked by Princess of Egypt 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been with my boyfriend 7 months already and I feel I've known him all my life.
2006-10-07 01:48:43 · update #1
We are both 22.
2006-10-07 03:15:25 · update #2
Many people have second throughts when making such a big decision. Just remember if he is the right guy you will work through these misgivings together and everyday your reasons fro becoming engaged will become clearer to you. It is a big step and spending the rest of your life with a man is a huge decision. You would be immature if you were not indecisive, and trust me it will become more comfortable as time passes and you become more comfortable with you new role as a young engaged woman.
2006-10-07 01:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In life, we all have to make decisions that we are not sure of. If you are in love with him and are just scared, then go for the happiness and get married. But remember, a marriage is the treating of your spouse as an equal, and he should treat you as an equal also in all things. It's about giving, taking and sharing equally. If one does not and just takes, then the marriage is finished even before it begins. You will not know if you have made the right decision unless you try. I wish you all the happiness and luck in you marriage.
2006-10-07 08:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by viper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all like to live the less complicated part of a relationship, meaning, being engaged. Its romantic, you are still free in a way, and it makes you feel young forever.
I think that when one decides seriously to get married you need to let go a good part of selfishness, and freedom.
Marriage life is not always romantic and beautiful, it can be very hard and testing at times.
However, I think that it is a beautiful experience and I believe that whatever will happen in the future depends on us. Remember, to be always smiling, and kind to this boy. There are to many women that make the mistake that once you are married you have arrived at destination. NO, you need to work hard together to make this one life the most beautiful one!!!!! I wish you the best and most of all LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-07 08:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by marque1717 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
M y wife and I dated for 3 years.
We have been married for 30 years.
Secret of long marriage?
Argue about everything BUT money.
Find something you both can do together.
We like to eat fast food together.
Go to the movies every week together.
Go shopping together.
And go on vacation every 3 months for 1-3 days. Usually the theme parks in Orlando.
2006-10-07 08:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very Normal
2006-10-07 08:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal ask any woman who is married and ask her what it felt like before she got engaged. Donot feel that this will ruin your relationship because it wont.
Good Luck and Have A Happy Life Together
2006-10-07 08:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is one of the biggest changes in someones life, it's normal to have those feelings. just remember that you know that its the right thing and take you time with it. you can have a long engagement and get married when you feel the time it right.
2006-10-07 08:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by and now you know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel . If he listens and is supportive,the relationship will be a good thing. It all depends how old you are. If you are young really think about it. Marriage is like a job you have to work at it. I am not saying to put up with things. Talking is the key to every relationship.
2006-10-07 09:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by elmom_45 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal!!
If you did not feel scared and nervous then there would be something wrong. Marriage is supposed to be forever.
If you love him as much as you say you do, things will be fine.
2006-10-07 08:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by nnett64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called "Cold Feet".. u need to start asking urself the right questions.. "Do u love him enough to stay married to him for the rest of your life?" Do u believe he loves u enough to stay married to u for the rest of your life? Do u think u both have it in u to stick it through anything good or bad that comes ur way..
Then u need to ask yourself can u picture your life with out him?
Can u picture him marrying someone else ?
Having children with someone else.?
Because that is what will happen if u break up he will continue on with his life, and find someone else and marry and have kids with.. and can u bare the serious thought of that happening?
I asked my mom once how do u know ur really in love..
She said when u can seriously search with in your soul and ask yourself if u can see ur life with anyone other then him.. and if u can bare the thought of him being with another.. she said if u cant see urself with anyone but him,and u cant bare the thought of him with another, then u know ur in love.. but its not a question u ask ur brain, its a question u have to search deep with in ur heart and soul to ask..
2006-10-07 08:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋