i was raped and my boyfriend thinks am still a virgin wat do i do he will be so disapointed if he finds out?

Question

i love my boyfriend to bits, but i moved to a diffrent country a year ago. i wanted him to be the first guy to ever sleep with but unfortunately was raped by a guy i thought was just my friend. hw do i break such news to him because am hurting inside and he thinks am so perfect. should i tell him and what if he finds out amd not a virgin wen i decide to sleep with him. help pliz am caught up in the middle

Answer 1

No you don't have to tell him, bcaz you don't know nature of man. The want to do sex with diffrent partner but they will never accpet that her partner has done sex with other partner, wether it is raped or normal sex.He will not know any thing abt raped untill & unless u will not tell him, bcaz i think you r t5he only person who knows that you r raped. Do plz don't disclose this now, if you have not complain FIR till date then you should forget your past which was so bad incident.

Answer 2

If your boyfriend is worth it he will understand, i think you will have to tell him. Rape takes a long time to get over and he will wonder why you are not acting normally, he may think it's his fault. Imagine how upset he would be in the future if he found out you'd not wanted him to support you. I do feel really sorry for you, and think you should look into speaking to a counsellor. And even though you were raped your first time with your boyfriend will still be special, because this time you chose to do it, and if he doesn't understand that he's a loser.

Answer 3

Sweetie, if your bf really loves you and cares for you then you guys will work through this. Would you rather not work though it with someone you love? Rather then him finding out later and being very upset that something as IMPORTANT as this was not said to him.

I know a friend who was in a similar situation like yours and I told her the same advice. She told her bf and he dumped her, not because she was not a virgin anymore, because he was upset she didn't tell him before, this is very important. The biggest reason you shoudl tell him is because how about you guys finally have sex but there is something wrong with you? Perhaps your rapists spread an std or an infection to you with out you even knowing. That could effect not only you but him as well.

Be tru to your heart, and let the truth free because secrets always come out!

Your Friend Alex

Answer 4

first you need to talk about what happened to a professional and family and friends, this is not your fault and you have no reason to think you are anything but perfect. you should tell him what happened but with support, if he really is a descent guy, the fact that somebody took your virginity away against your will, should not ever come into it, he should be more concerned that sex is not the be all and end all of your relationship, and want to be there to love, care and support you through this emotional time best of luck and stay strong

Answer 5

First of all i am saddened to hear about you being hurt like that. To answer your question and this is coming from a man ok. Most guys are very naive about a woman's body although 99% of them won't admit it. When the time comes for you and your boyfriend to have sex ask him to be gentle with you as it is the first time and make the appropriate movements and noises as he enters you. Tell him as he enters you to take it slowly and so on till he is fully in you then make comments about how big it is and so on and so forth (guys like to hear this anyway). I know it is deceitful but not as deceitful as a guy pretending to be your friend and then raping you is it? Good luck love.

Answer 6

You are so perfect the bloke who raped you is the one who is a monster you however are still the same sweet person you was before If you can get over the mental scars I'm sure you will be everything your boyfriend wants.
Please don't blame yourself for what happened and the rape is not making love so your boyfriend will be the 1st person you make love with.

Answer 7

If he's even worth being called a person, he won't be disappointed. It's not your fault something that horrible happened to you. Tell him, and if he's really as good as you think, he won't be disappointed. He might want to kill the guy who did it to you, but that's understandable. He'll be more concerned for you than anything else. He'll still think you're perfect.
Good luck, and I hope you got the guy who did it in the appropriate trouble. If you didn't, then tell someone about it! Odds are you'd be doing other girls a favour in getting him put away.

Answer 8

Just be honest with him. Some guys are understanding. Better bring it out now as such a secret will tear you apart as time goes on.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

You should tell him as secrects will only eat away at you from the inside, If he loves you he will understand.

He will be angary at first but not at you, its a male instinct to want to protect the one you love and he will feel angary at that but given a little time everything will sort its self out.

I once went through the same sort of thing a girlfriend of mine was raped and she kept it quiet for years and only ever told me, i was angry even though i didnt even know her at the time but everything was ok in the end and im glad she did tell me.

hope everything is ok

Answer 10

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