I have a little problem!?

Question

I am one of those that really worry, when i say worry i dont mean worry like over normal things but ova small things as well, like nething, like jus say some1 says something 2 u, all i do is think about it and try n understand y they said it, and jus say i was meeting some1 i worry day evry second had 2 go right like, i have 2 know wat i im goin 2 say, it crazy i know but iw orry ova d littlest of things, like nething, like things i see as well that arent in me control.... are there any sensible suggestion on what I can do?

Answer 1

Ah just like me. I am constantly anxious. I'm terrified of new places because there will be people I don't know, and I won't know where to go, and I won't know what to do, and what if I can't even find it, and I get lost, and I'm late, and they all judge me, and I make a bad impression, and I don't know what to say, and I.... ?(head explodes)

What you described is all too familiar. I am absolutely awful with it. I constantly overload myself. I think if I drop a pen someone will trip on it and fall, and hurt themselves and they will be crippled for life, and it will be my fault, and I'll feel guilty forever, and they'll need surgery and blah blah blah. If someone says something to me even in jest I take it seriously and think omg is that true? and compile eveidence for it in my head and worry about it. If I get things wrong I panic hardcore and worry about teh consequences for days.

I'm currently seeing a counsellor, and she told me to think of where I am most relaxed, and imagine that sensation whenever I start to grow anxious. Whenever I begin to panic about something, I need to imagine my calm place, and convince myself I am there. It's an imagination and persuasion task, and I'm sure with time I will master it. In the meantime, I am trying to logically reason with myself. When I begin to panic, I tell myself nothing but Death is Finite. I can change things. If I make a mistake, I need to admit it and attempt to correct it rather than fretting over it. That's just counterproductive. If someone says something bad about me, I need to ask myself if it really is true, with character evidence from what I know of myself and my deeds. If it's true I should take it as constrcutive criticism and improve in that area. If it's not I should consider that person's motivation.

I guess you just have to work hard to stop the panic. It will never be easy, but nothing's harder than being this anxious all the time, so any improvement is excellent progress. Good luck mate. Hope you can sort your head out before it drives you as doolally as me!

Answer 2

You have to start by realising that you can't control everything. You don't need to worry about things. Sod the world, let them look after themselves. I used to worry about the house being a mess, shouted at my husband for not helping and at the kids but one day I realised, I work full time, look after the family, wash, shop etc. Who gives a sod about the house. It now get's done as and when I can fit it in or be bothered. Nothing in life is worth making your self ill over and trust me you will become ill if you go on like this. Chill out, get some help to relax, yoga or something, something you can do at home to relax when you feel your self getting wound up. Only worry about the really important things. Have you tried Kalms. They're a herbal pill which help you to settle if you're uptight, calms your tummy and helps you to relax. They're so mild you can't even feel them. Give them a go and seek medical advice if you can't do this alone. You're not alone, it's normal, we all do it but some more than others. Get help! x

Answer 3

You might try transcendental meditation (which is basically concentrating on your breath and letting your thoughts pass by without paying much attention to them - the "noise" in your head could stop). Or try and write your thoughts and worries down. Once you've written about a problem and considered every aspect of it in writing, it's unlikely your thoughts will return to it.
If that doesn't help, you should consider therapy. Don't take any drugs, they will only suppress the problem, not solve it. Medication does the same, the second you stop taking it the "noise" may come back. Only take medication in combination with regular counselling sessions.

Answer 4

formerly each and every little thing i could tend to accept as true with the others, yet after some concept i'm afraid you will overlook to get rid of the plug after your evening out, and Hattie will explode in her sleep. Or roll over and positioned out a window while it 'pops' i think of the main suitable thank you to attitude it truly is with a tube inserted in her rear and run to the hollow of a balloon. Hattie can place the balloon in bra and it will act as a custom 'ask your self Bra'. once you spot her getting slightly chestier you may excuse yourselves and relieve the stress formerly returning to the table. the only warning i could have is to determine there is not any open flames around once you relieve the stress. we'd hate to lose you and Hattie by way of a freakish twist of destiny.

Answer 5

It seems like you need to control everything around you which is just not possible to do. If you try and think through conversations, they will never come out exactly as you planned because people are inviduals and have their own thoughts. Just be yourself and if you get a negative reaction from someone then it is their lose not yours and it is not worth presuing that relationship.

Answer 6

it is just a phase... let it run its course.. do not drug yourself out of it or jump into therapy right away... just let life take its course for a while.... you should be concerned only if it is really affecting your life, relationships career etc... else just chill.... in the event of a panic attack try pondering over this.... you are going to die one day anyway and try with all your mighy you wont be able to change that... so why worry... try a book or tv or sports or travelling or something that interests you....

Answer 7

When you worry it means you don't have faith, and the Bible says, without faith it is impossible to please God. It seems you are very self absorbed. Think of others for a change, do something for others. Just get your mind off yourself!
And look in the right-hand corner and click on Check Spelling.

Answer 8

I would stop smoking pot if I was you, or if you don' I would not start, people that worry to much need to focus their energy some how on a hobby or sport or go to a psychologist and get some medication

Answer 9

Transform yourself Ibrahim. Ask yourself until when do you want to continue this worrying habit ? If you want to end it now, commit yourself to stop it by reading a book to help you do it. If you cannot handle this by yourself, then it's time to get a friend or a professional to help you out. Take it easy and good luck on your transformation.

Answer 10

Breathing exercisies.

Hold your breath for twelve hours.

Do this at the bottom af an ocean, with something very heavy tied to your feet.

You will stop worrying, guaranteed.