im pregnant and i need help.............?

Question

because me and my boyfriend argue all the time we try to have time apart but he just says im cheating wich im not i love him but i dont want to be with him any more because its doing more harm than good and im just getting stressed out and i shouldnt be at this point i need to break up with him because are relatuonship is stormy but i still want him to be involved with his baby and that but i really cant handle it anymore hellllllllllllp?

before anyone comes up with any rude or horrible comments i work and earn my own money and dont ponce of the goverment thank u very much

Answer 1

Oh great. Another bastard I have to pay for. Haven't you people ever heard of contraception?

Don't bother reporting me, I've reported myself for this one.

Answer 2

first of all i do not think that you or your unborn baby would mooch off of the government and secondly you have made the best decision for you and for your baby. I understand that you still want him to be involved in your baby's life and that is great but first you need to seek a custody&visitation schedule from family court. When you do this you can also ask for child support which you will need(even though you are a hard working mama) You need to contact a lawyer before the baby is born so that this can all start shortly after the baby is born. after that you need to make sure that he does not get angry/upset at the new baby like he has been doing with you. If you ever hear him getting mad/yelling at the baby then you need to stop the visitation right away and call CPS(child protective services) as they will then have to look into his parenting skills and his ability to look after the new baby.Remember you are the only voice the new baby has so if something is not right then you need to speak up about it.
Good Luck and Take Care

Answer 3

take no notice to the snide comments you received here about your question, some people are just nasty

.....if you are not happy with your boyfriend then leave him, keep his baby, but don't ever try to stop him seeing the baby, no man should be denied that, you cannot go on in a relationship if you are both arguing all the time, it will affect your child f this continues after he/she is born and it does long term damage, so keep your babies dad at arms length, let him see the baby every day but allow him to take the baby out so you can get some rest, i am sorry that your having a hard time here, being pregnant changes your moods, as for your b/f, he's paranoid and insecure for even thinking that your cheating, i mean how many pregnant women in the right mind want to go out and cheat....not many eh? just relax, don't stress out, your baby can become stressed even inside the womb, try not to argue with him, if he wants an argument then tell him to sod off and leave you have to seriously decide about your relationship, is it going to be ehalthy for your baby? i dont think so....kids pick up on things and can become stressed, tell him it's over for you and him, but please don't stop him seeing his kid, he has rights....good luck...if you need to chat....go to my space and get my email.....i am a good listener...

Answer 4

You should sit down and get to the root of the problem, which means TALKING! Maybe he is nervous about the new baby too and is taking his frustrations out on you. For the sake of your unborn child you should give it one last shot. You need to find out what makes your relationship stormy, why is he insecure? Maybe he has had problems in his childhood that have made him wary about trusting people. You may want to try and get him to a counsellor to talk about it if he wont open up to you. If the relationship really has run it's course you need to prepare to be a single mother, ask your family for support and arrange regular visits for dad and baby. He should also provide for you financially. Above all, try to sort this out amicably to ensure that your baby has the best environment and two loving parents.
Good luck.

Answer 5

You seem to be looking at this in a very mature way. It is important to have a father in a childs life as well as a mother but if you argue then it is best to do as you propose doing and live seperately. As for some of the stupid remarks that have come from oter answers just ignore them because half of them only write short answers to get two points on the board. It is them that are sad.

Answer 6

Girl, i feel your pain but you have no choice but to involve him except you want to be an exclusive single parent and when the child grows up and start asking about the father, you'll be speechless.

Its entirely up to you. Please don't let your baby's health be in jeopardy because of the stormy relationship. Discuss with his folks so that they'll know the gravity of the situation because a child is involved here. Its just a matter of time (hopefully) before your baby poppa becomes mature to handle responsibilities.

Answer 7

girl im not being funny but you got some real thinkinking to do you no, thing is a baby will take up all your time so your gonna be stressed out enyway an if you an your fella are at each other a lot then things are gonna be so hard and deppressing for ya, think long an hard about what sort of way of life you want for you an the baby an if you need to talk ..........

Answer 8

Tell Him You need time out but You still need His support.Now`s not really a good time to make decision of breaking up(could be stress and hormones).Wait `til Your more Your old self,and try to include Your boyfriend in things to do with the pregnancy/baby.Things may settle down with less pressure on both of You.iT`S HARD BEING A DAD TOO and having that kind of a responsibility.....go easy on Him

Answer 9

Depending on how mature he is, breaking up with him shouldn't be a factor in whether or not he can have involvement and a relationship as father figure with your baby.

You may find that if you both agree being apart is the right course for the relationship, then over time it may strengthen your friendship and you could offer your baby a healthy future with two parents, even if not in the traditional sense :)

Answer 10

Contraception is obviously an alien concept to you?
Glad you can support a rugrat though, most people dont give that a thought. Stormy relationships are never a good thing when kids are involved. Dump him........but dont forget to get the child support money from him!

Answer 11

If any country can cater for single mothers without them feeling real hardship it's the one you're living in. These days men can't just walk away from their children. He'll no doubt stay involved, don't worry about that. Just concentrate on getting free of what sounds like a horrible relationship.