is it right to date/marry someone of a different race than you?

Question

here is the deal, I've been dating a "white" guy and every now and then I do get slight comments from from people of my own colour, saying things like am a "sell-out" and so on......so I just wanted to get views of what you people think.

Answer 1

Of course it is perfectly all right to date, and, if the relationship develops, to marry a person of another race. After all , what does 'of another race' really mean? It usually means that skin colour is a bit different purely because of climate condtions that existed thousands of years ago where ancestors once lived, and maybe there are slightly different facial characteristic - but so what?!

Beneath this superficiality of outward appearance lies the same organs, the same blood groups, etc., and emotionally we humans are all the same. In a few cases cultural differences might cause occasional issues, but if you are from America then you are living in one big multiracial/cultural society where 99 percent of things are common to all people.

If there was less talk about 'sell out' and more talk about 'harmony' and 'commonality', the whole world would be better off - not just America!

So I wish you and your 'white guy' the best of luck.

Answer 2

Well my personal opinion would be. Being Asian and a Muslim i know that we have to always think about what other people in the community will think. Asian parents be it Muslim or Hindu or any other religion they will always want their children to marry into their own religion and nationality. And i've seen a lot of cases where a man has went onto to marry someone of a different colour and have literally been disowned by their parents for doing so.

I am not aware of what nationality or faith you are but one thing i will say is that people of different races dating or eventually marrying each other will do a great deal of good to inter-race relations within this country. For some reason day by day i can see that their are more and more new divisions are being created. I presume you remember the birmingham riots. This happened in a community where black and asian people lived in harmony for over 20 years yet a new division has now being created. 10-15 years ago no one would've dreamt about this ever happening yet this has happened now.

Multi-race marriages are one way in which we can perhaps break these divisions and make multiculturalism work within the britsh society. I don't see anything wrong with it and whoever calls you a "sell-out" explain this to them and also that they can't forget that they live in a multicultural society where we all have to live together.

Answer 3

I always wonder about having a relationship with someone from another race / colour - with the perspective of 'What if I were blind,' and what difference would their colour or race / height make to me (who, after all, has ALREADY 'made a choice').

I remember reading about 'none white' young people who in the centre of London, would go into a 'smaller store' or shop, and want to do (in effect was) a 'mass shoplift' and expect the guy working there to cooperate with them - because of the same colour / race connection.

If the guy in the shop (usually it was a guy, for security reasons) was not cooperative, then he'd be labelled by the them as a 'something' that l can't remember the term now, but it meant 'you are Dark on the outside, but White' on the inside.

It's a racial thing, inverted - If you ain't one of us, then you have to be one of THEM, a form of emotional / racial blackmail. And quite hipocritically detestable.

I've worked with a lot of none-white males and females and have not encountered any 'racial Problems,' and enjoyed those relationships. But I get the idea that I've just been very lucky.

Sash.

Answer 4

Probably not but then my childhood sweetheart ran off with a genuine african prince, produced several children in a variety or shades of brown and now he has left her and her family still shun her and have not forgiven her .
My family skillfully manipulated a meeting with a distant Cousin I had not met but who lived 10 miles away and we have been married for over 25 years wth no plans to seperate.
So if you are Muslim or jewish marry your cousin,someone from your own home town, who went to the same school, who knew the same people. Someone with GCSEs or a good Degree who can provide a good life.
I have a friend who is almost white but one Indian Grandparent and she has problems being accepted by white society, so be pragmatic, marry for a comfortable life, not for short term excitement.
Dating is a different matter. Have fun, dont tell the inlaws, move 100 miles away, don't admit anything, yet but it will be good to talk about in the retirement home when you are 90.

Answer 5

relies upon on what denomination of Christianity you're speaking approximately...I mean the Bible says alot approximately alot of issues. i could not call financial ruin and verse genuine off the bat, yet interior the previous testomony, the Jews have been instructed to not mixture tribes and races, the 12 tribes of judaism have been to stay organic. in spite of if, that became pointed on the Jews, AND the previous testomony stated that adulterers and Sabbath breakers (examine: in case you mowed the backyard on Sunday afternoon =^P so which you should talk) you would be stoned to dying. and you shouldn't marry when you divorced on the grounds that became nevertheless seen adultery. SO take it for what it is worth. interior the recent testomony, one is instructed to love one yet another, to settle for one yet another, and to do the desirable element, in actuality. as long as you're "good on your heart" and freed from sin (yet who's??) then all became genuine interior the international. i don't think of there is something incorrect in any respect with interracial relationships. It takes a extra perfect individual to decide a guy or females by using the content fabric of their character than by using the colour of their skin.

Answer 6

Marrying a caucasion while you are black is perfectly fine. Considering having children? What culture will they live under? Isn't it hard enough growing up in this world without being a mixed race? Marry and be happy, just don't put children through the pain.

Answer 7

I think it is right to date or marry "anyone" regardless of their race as long as they make you happy, respect you and your race or religion. Don't listen to what other people have to say, and if your family aren't happy about your choice of partner, explain the way you feel about this person. After all, we all breathe the same air, need the same things to survive in this planet, in other words we're all equal. Good luck, and I hope you are happy with your partner.

Answer 8

I don't think race matters a hoot. But differences in culture, values, priorities, and so on do - a lot! So check that you are of like minds, babe, and make very sure that you can both discuss differences without being upset by them. I can assure you, if there's even a flicker of that, the relationship is doomed, however long it takes.

Answer 9

Yes, of course it's okay. Two of my neices are mixed race and are absolutely adorable. If you care for the person, then I say race is not important. Some people will talk badly about you no matter what you do so please just follow your heart.

Answer 10

Y E S
its fine
culture difference do cause problems
colour of skin means nothing