Last April, I found a secret myspace my bf had been hiding.. this was when he was attending school in another state. He had email at least 20 girls, probabaly more. He even called this one HIDEOUS, girl [this one-->myspace.com/jenn_j.] not even half as pretty as me.Really.]. He sent her messages like "you have a sexy voice" and he sent her a picture of him. And, no offense to black girls, [i<3 u]but he doesn't find them attractive.I confronted him and he said he didnt know what he was doing.well,what hurts the most is that he didn't mention me once, he put single on his pro and he set up teh account using an email adress that consisted of my nickname for him and the day we started dating..and he proposed to me 3 months prior.. He's making up for it.. really.. But Im still hurt and if I ever bring it up, he gets sad and asks why I haven't gotten over it yet. Do you think I should still be hurt.. I can't get over it soon, and i'm positive i'll never forget it. What would you have don
2006-10-07 00:02:49 · 17 answers · asked by KS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not shallow and I don't appreciate you saying that. I'm asking for advice, not to be put down. Black, white, red, yellow, purple, that girl is ugly. I'm not rasict. I'm not going to delve into what he says about dating or having sex with black girls because one, it's no one business, and two i don't want anyone offended.
2006-10-07 00:17:04 · update #1
Im exactly the same as you!!
I wouldnt be able to forget it either, my boyfriend was on facepic and talking to all these women i went absolutly ballistic, but he did have in a relationship, but that dont stop some slags trying to take him off me does it!! he didnt understand why i went mad, and im still angry now, he deleted it coz we kept arguing about it and would have ended up splitting up. but he thought it was fine and he didnt and still dont know how much it hurt me. we are ok now, we dont talk about it, but im sure he has a hidden one somewhere else, either that or im being paranoid.
i know its hard but try not to bring it up again put it away in a box in your mind, if he deleted the account then great. but if you really cant let it go, maybe you 2 should have a break. xXx Good luck!
2006-10-07 00:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay when he is hiding things from you like that & your not married yet be very careful.This could be a pattern of his behavior after the wedding also.You will never forget a lie that he has told but you can forgive which is not easy at all.If you think he is worth it to you wait on the wedding to see how things work out . But please take your time cause you don't want this to happen if you got kids & committed to a marriage.It will leave you making choices you wouldn't think you'd ever make.
2006-10-07 00:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it replaced into using fact once you employ the avada kedavra spell element there is an exceedingly vivid mild and Harry replaced into in the back of his mom whilst it passed off so he would have theory she replaced into drowsing. Lol. He in all possibility did not see sufficient to understand what passed off OR it could have been using fact he replaced into born with undesirable sight and so does not have the skill to tell what passed off till he observed the physique on the floor. which skill you probably did not see somebody die, you observed their ineffective physique. So he would possibly not understand what he observed or would possibly not have considered it ensue using distance and mild-weight. in spite of the fact that whilst Cedric dies D= (Sorry, i'm a twilighter) then the mild wont look so severe using fact his eyesight wont have been as delicate as whilst he replaced right into a sprint one. Idk particularly those are only knowledgeable guesses particularly i assume it is purely a plot hollow. Oh properly no one's suitable!! I nevertheless love HP. advantageous question however, I puzzled this as quickly as I first study the e book, yet theory i might only ignored some thing. Lol. x
2016-10-18 23:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by comesana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First its understandable that you can't 'just get over it'....he broke your trust and that is no little thing that can just 'zap!' all fixed again! Personally I'm not sure I would be too quick to trust him again....does he really know that its you he wants ...or... is he still trying to make up his mind?...you say he's 'making up for it'....??? are you sure the word shouldn't be 'sweeping it under the rug'...perhaps he's thinking if he makes nice nice and lovy you will just forget it?....I think you should look for someone new....this one strikes me as one not to be trusted....you have a hard decision to make think about what some have advised here carefully and good luck
Blessed Be!
2006-10-07 00:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Getting over something like that takes along time and you may never get over that. He has to respect that. But I will bet you he is still doing that. Bet you just don't know about it. I know a 62 year old man that does the same thing. He says his girlfriend knows about it but I bet she doesn't know all of it. You never really know anybody or what they are capable of until you see them do these things. Good luck to you.
2006-10-07 00:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yargh! what a bastard!
i think he was playing the field to see if there were any better options out there. by saying he was single he was ensuring a better return to his site.
i'd be a bit worried and unsure if he really does love you. for me i'd need some more time to be positive that he has this out of his system and isn't going to do it again. i'm usually very trusting, but being a guy and privy to some of my mates antics, this man of yours has made problems that MUST be fixed before you two go any further, and fixed on your terms too, coz you are the one that needs to be able to trust him again.
i don't envy you in this, but if your love is strong and he is genuine i'm sure you'll work it all out to your satisfaction.
2006-10-07 00:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices.
1) If you think that he went to far and you can never accept what he did, then fine. Leave him and find someone else.
or 2) Forgive him and stop brining it up altogether.
To stay with him but keep bugging him about just makes for an unhealthy relationship.
Also, damn you're right. That girl is FUGLY!
2006-10-07 00:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i think it bother you...because he was attracted to some one you would never think could be better than you....Someone on a lower scale...and i guess he is attracted to black girls...huh....don't underestimate the power of another women...sometimes it's what you don't see that will set it off....i would really like to help you...but just stating on someones looks and color...lets me know ...maybe he's looking for someone not so shallow....
2006-10-07 00:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
facts about men
they all look up porn on the pc
and they all join these chat sites and flirt with chickas
its part of life its just how they are
it dosent mean they love u any less or want u any less its just how it is
we women will never be able to explain it
we jsut gotta accept it, keep on loving em and get over it
2006-10-07 00:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by oz_gurl2005 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is still playing the field. any guy that would do that is looking for something. maybe a playmate for things that you will not do. take it from me i'm a guy and any guy who has a girlfriend or wife and does something like that is trying to hook up even if it's for a one nighter.
2006-10-07 00:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by chris37mtx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋