Hi I met a guy on line 7 months ago. A few months after we met on line, I asked if he'd like to meet me in person cause I wanted to know the person I'd been e-mailing and IMing for months. Af first he said that he'd rather not meet me in person for he was afraid of disappointment and disillusion. He even begged me not to push him. Then last month he told me he was also afraid of rejection if we met in person. I took that he wouldn't want to meet me, but things took a different turn last Saturday morning. He told me he was going to H.K. in about 2 weeks and asked if I could join him there!!! I told him I won't have any break until the end of November, and he said we'll talk about it later since it's too early to make plans. I don't why he acted so differently in a matter of 4 months or so. I mean did he want to meet me but was playing cool. What do you think? Please share with me your opinion on this. Your help is greatly appreciated.
2006-10-06 23:04:15 · 10 answers · asked by patience s 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That sounds very dangerous to me. For one, you'll be in Hong Kong ... completely cut off from anyone who'd be able to help you if something went wrong (maybe he's thinking that too!). Second, Hong Kong is not the safest place in the world, they have very different laws, and he will be able to get away with things there that he never would here (like raping you! or worse). You will be overseas not expected to return for a few weeks, if you go missing, who will know in time to find you? He will have weeks to cover himself, the longer you go, the harder it is to find out what happened, and he probably knows this too.
Do NOT trust him. This is very dangerous. I would only travel with someone that I trusted my life with.
2006-10-07 01:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I made a rule long ago not to meet anyone in person who I met online. But that was a long time ago and I'd be more willing. But I wouldn't got to Hong Kong for 2 weeks with someone who I only had internet contact with. I'm assuming that since you wanted to meet the person before this that they must be relatively close to you. I personally would start a bit slower if you really want to meet them.
Obviously I don't know what kind of relationship you guys built over the internet, but I think he always wanted to meet you. Meeting someone in person after having a good relationship online is pretty intimidating. I think it has a lot to do with the fear of the other person not liking you...more than you not liking that person.
Then again this person may be trying to get you to Hong Kong to drug you and sell your liver on the black market.
Seriously though....like in the movie Contact...small steps....yeah I'm a nerd. :)
2006-10-06 23:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by sonicbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound odd, doesn't it?
i have three thoughts on this:
1. he's a bit nervous about travelling alone and wants you to accompany him. it's a nice way to break the ice and you get a holiday at the same time.
2. he's been in a relationship and didn't want to see you as to him that would be 'cheating' (though if he's in a relationship then he's already cheating as far as i'm concerned), but now that has ended so he's keen to meet up.
3. is hk just a new thing or had he planned that before hand? regardless it seems that he feels more comfortable meeting in a neutral place, like hk.
i'd be asking him some more questions to check out his motivation and turn around in this. i doubt there's anything too sinister, but you've got to be wary, especially in light of how he's changed his mind.
i hope it works out, so all the best to you in this.
2006-10-06 23:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 22:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by slaugh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest with you, I wouldn't chance it. If you want to meet him it should be in a public place and not to spend the week with him. You don't know if he is a psychopathic killer or not. Nine times out of ten these men are hunting women. They get the woman interested, play it cool, then ask them to meet them and then kill them. It just sounds like a bad idea to me.
But this is just my opinion as a mother.
2006-10-06 23:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by greylady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with phoenixheat on this one. I'd avoid this dude like the plague. I would never recommend an affair online. Way too risky. Besides, what's wrong with the old fashioned way of meeting people?
2006-10-06 23:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not meet him anywhere. Quit any contact with him. He sounds like a dangerous person, or if not dangerous, married or something. Meet people locally and quit that online chatting with people who could be criminals for all you know.
2006-10-06 23:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was too scared to meet you the first time, why would he ask you overseas. He probably wants to sell you, like on that show 'human trafficking'.
2006-10-07 02:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jimbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he has been stringing you along the whole time. He obvousily has lied to you. Dump him, get on with your life with someone that isn't fake.
2006-10-06 23:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he just changed his mind that is all
2006-10-07 00:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋