2006-10-06 21:53:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did, but it depends on the reason really, were you having a rough patch or a break? Or was it just because she didnt think she'd get caught?
Forgiving is the easy part, its forgetting thats is hard.
Everyones situation is different, but you can tell if they are sorry or not. They have to make huge efforts in regaining trust back.
Its alot of hard work but if you guys love each other, its worth the effort.
I always thought the answer to this question would be NO, but after living through it, obviously my answer is yes, everyone deserves a second chance!......
2006-10-07 00:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on you, is there some reason why?
1- If it was because you two were having some serious issues, fights and seperations, then her anger or loneliness could lead her to cheat, but she would always regret it in the end. If you love her and she feels secure in you, she would probably not do it again. So You could forgive her.
2- If your relationship was fine and she just off and cheated on you, then I would say this is more serious dude. I am not sure am that shallow to tell you 'NO DON'T FORGIVE HER', because at my age, these strong positions have never been good decisions. However, do you want to keep a relationship with no trust between yourselves. It would drain you both.
So judge the reasons yourself, and take a decision to keep or lose your marriage. But considering that you brought this up on the forum, I think you love her so much, you might consider forgiving her, especially if she is genuinely sorry. I think it is a good decision.
2006-10-07 05:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a difficult thing. It means many different things to many people.
Would i forgive someone if they cheated on me? Over time...i would come to understand that people make mistakes, choices, and i probably would come to an understanding with the situation, but totally forgiving them for their action? I would say no i wouldn't. Being what they did is still "wrong". Having an understanding on how/why it happened helps.
Staying in a relationship with that individual now, is a while other ballgame. That would be another good question is ask.
2006-10-07 06:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Takeaguess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure,as I am currently going thru this right now.I want to say to forgive because that would be best for you and in the end the spouse that cheated is the one that has to face themselves in the mirror and live with fallout that their actions has caused.But as far as forgetting,it will always be in the back of your mind. I hope that it works out for you.
2006-10-07 12:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by jah92368 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the level of your love, if my spouse cheat on me because any reason, I must find out whose fault, and a most important is if I am sure that I cannot live without my husband''s love, I must forgive my husband and then one day he will regret what he did wrong and everything will be all right
2006-10-07 05:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know as I've never been in that situation with my spouse before. One must remember that forgiving isn't the same thing as forgetting and while the former may come in time, the latter will always remain.
2006-10-07 04:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age of the spouses and the duration of the relationship have alot to do with if you live through infidelity. Youngsters(16-35) are prone to think with their posessive parts, after 35 we are more secure in our own sexuality and a fling is not as daunting a proposition as it is when all the hormones are flying.Personally if she does laundery, and floors she can have him for as long as she wants, minus the majority of his paycheck. And there is negotiation room there too.
2006-10-07 05:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by littlescreechowl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first there is no way on god green earth that fabuliz can ever be inadequate,, second i wouldnt forgive because that isnt a mistake,,now if i scheduled a meeting in a dark motel room and she entered the wrong room and slept with another man,, yeah thats a mistake,, but cheating is willings,, unless its rape,, that i find unforgivable
2006-10-07 05:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I could never forgive them or trust them again. Besides, if my partner cheated on me then he obviously doesn't respect or love me & obviously isn't satisfied or he wouldn't look elsewhere. If he doesn't want to be with me then I can't be with him. Cheaters are cowards who want to have their cake & eat it too. They don't want to give up the relationship (out of fear of being alone & losing their safe place?) yet they don't want to be faithful (or can't resist the temptation of someone else). If you're not happy with your partner then for God's sake just be honest & break up with them! Too many people lie & cheat. It's sickening.
2006-10-07 05:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It'd depend majorly on whether she was sober or drunk and if she wanted it to happen or not.
I would seriously have to think about it though, I love her heaps so It'd take me a couple of days to think about it.
Like I said it just depends on the circimstances.
cheers
Mitch
Launceston, Tas
Australia
2006-10-07 05:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋